Alright, I need some advice BG.

[Devek]

I have a lot of experience with abuse.

First of all.. don't hate on your dad or report him unless you think you're in some sort of danger of being harmed.

Abuse is a cycle and this was probably the way he was raised. Not saying that is ok and that he isn't a piece of shit, however he is just sick. Kind of like if your dad had cancer you wouldn't hate him.. Well this sickness is mental. IT IS STILL HIS FAULT, but it isn't that simple.. Maybe people in the last few generations didn't have options they do today and therapy for the older generation was unheard of and taking any was a sign of weakness and people would think you were fucked up.

You have choices. There is a point of growing up when we have to decide if the past is going to determine our future.

What type of person do you want to be when you grow up?

Once you decide that you need to look at what prevents you from being that. Some people try to simply will their way by not letting the past control them and "put it all behind them" and that works for some. It is better to deeply analyze your past and what happened to you and come to terms with this.

This may require some long term therapy (like 4 years) but it is totally worth it. I'm not talking about inpatient in a hospital, just find a good qualified person to go talk to every week or two. The last thing you want is to have your view on life skewed or be unrealistic because of abuse. Remember.. it may not make sense right now but you will most likely treat your kids the exact same way no matter how many times now you may say that you won't.

People who engage in therapy at not sick and it takes a very healthy person to care about their emotional wellbeing. Don't fool yourself into thinking you can just read a few self-help books and cure yourself cause you can't. Part of the sickness of abuse is that the victims and perpetrators can't accuracy depict reality and they need an expert to help them through that.

[Serif]

When I first read this, I thought it was just getting whipped.

Hell my Dad has backhanded me a few times but nothing like that.

Call the cops, setup a camera to hopefully show them the truth, if you can get the camera setup without him knowing it, let him hit you for a little and then bust out the baseball bat and take out his knees following with his elbows. If he is bigger than you, take out his shoulders or go for the kidneys but knees are the best bet, seeing how that will pretty much cripple him unless he is one of those old ass motherfucker country boys.

[Devek]

Oh ya, and you needa find some way to get away from your dad at least for awhile while. Hopefully you have some friends or other family you can move in with?

[Fayttt]

Yeah, I can probably manage to temporarily move in with a friend or something like that for a bit.

[Decillion]

Does he just randomly beat you for no reason? Or does he only hit you when you do something that deserves punishment?

Basically I'm wondering why he called the cops on you, because it sorta sounds like you may have done something pretty bad, considering he didn't get in trouble even after you told them what happened.

[Fayttt]

At times he'll basically find something to mess with me on. He tells me to do the dishes and shit (no problem, i'm a teenager, course ill have chores), his gf, my friends, and I all look at the dishes, they're perfect. He'll come home, and start bitching that I fucked up on one tiny dish. When there's clearly nothing there. He'll also hit me and shit at times when I deserve punishment.

He called the cops on me that incident because "he didn't want to deal with my ass anymore." Basically, its 1 minute past my bedtime, i'm shutting down my computer (Wtf, 1% of free space left, it won't happen insantly) he comes into my room and starts screaming and swearing at me at 10 at night to get the fuck off the computer when it's turning off. I try to tell him it's turning off, and he kept cutting me off. I started to go into bed when he started saying shit like don't turn your back on me when i'm talking to you which I can understand, but I think it was the right thing to do at the time to just do what he said, he jumped up on my bed, grabbed my ear and dragged me outside of my room at which point i basically sprinted to the bathroom and tried to hold the door closed so he couldn't get in, screaming at him to leave me the fuck alone and that he has no right to do this.
He comes in, kicks me a couple times, drags me outside, tells me to get out of his house, tells his GF to call the cops, they call the cops, he headbutts me outside the house, neighbors invited me in cause they heard noises and shit and it was a bit wierd for me to be standing outside in 0 degrees weather in a t-shirt and shorts.
So in essence, my computer had no space left (Alright, maybe its an excuse) and it was shutting down, going 1 minute past my bedtime and he snapped. Had a big ass bruise on my forehead, and I told the cops what happened because the neighbors I was in with called the police too. He didn't do anything, just forced me to go back inside my house and go to sleep.

Edited for paragraphs. That was a bad wall of text.

[cassiraa]

So the police were called, but not by you, by someone else [his GF]

That kind of explains why they weren't intent on listening to you. My advice is to have a friend drive you to the Police Dept. and tell an officer or sergeant what you typed here.

Devek is right, You should be seeing a social worker at least, psychiatrist at best. And staying there isn't healthy or going to get any better without some form of intervention.

[Bartylby]

this might be a sensetive topic but what happened to your mom? real mom i mean

[Zalius]

Don't do the hidden camera thing, any good lawyer would destroy that in court. The next time he does that shit go the neighbors (even if you dont know them or they hate you) and ask them if you can call the police. When the police get there tell them you do NOT want to go back with him and get a restraining order on him.

A really good friend of mine's dad beat the shit out of her constantly. I told her to call me the next time he touched her and id come pick her up. Well, she didn't and he almost killed her. We talked to the police and she's emancipated and lives with a friend at a dorm now but shes fucked up forever because of that now, dont let that shit happen to you

[Fayttt]

So the police were called, but not by you, by someone else [his GF]

That kind of explains why they weren't intent on listening to you. My advice is to have a friend drive you to the Police Dept. and tell an officer or sergeant what you typed here.

Devek is right, You should be seeing a social worker at least, psychiatrist at best. And staying there isn't healthy or going to get any better without some form of intervention.

Well, the neighbors called the police too and he talked to me and I told him everything. I probably will end up going to the police department, probably gonna request to talk to a sergent, for some reason i don't think I can trust officers. And yeah, I actually used to go see someone a couple times a month, i'm gonna see if I can start doing that again.

this might be a sensetive topic but what happened to your mom? real mom i mean

Tbh, I'm not sure exactly, I remember I was with her till about i was 3 or so, and my dad said she went crazy and that he took custody of me. Or she told him to rather, and sent the police after my dad on grounds of kidnapping. Then she apologized and just said that I was my dad's kid. Now that I'm thinking about it though, I don't know if that's fact or not, that's just what I was told.

Don't do the hidden camera thing, any good lawyer would destroy that in court. The next time he does that shit go the neighbors (even if you dont know them or they hate you) and ask them if you can call the police. When the police get there tell them you do NOT want to go back with him and get a restraining order on him.

A really good friend of mine's dad beat the shit out of her constantly. I told her to call me the next time he touched her and id come pick her up. Well, she didn't and he almost killed her. We talked to the police and she's emancipated and lives with a friend at a dorm now but shes fucked up forever because of that now, dont let that shit happen to you

Yeah, instead of going to my neighbor's Ill probably just go to my friend's house, he's like literally 5 minutes from my house. Could go to my next-door neighbors for evidence too 'cause they always say they hear noises I guess.

[Devek]

How long ago was the incident that he headbutted you?

How does the abuse that year compare to the abuse the year before and the year before that?

Does he do drugs or drink?

[Decillion]

I'd recommend you talk to your school counselor or a teacher 1st before doing anything else. Calling the police could potentially cause more problems for you. I'd only call the police if you feel like your dad may end up killing you or severely hurting you.

[Fayttt]

How long ago was the incident that he headbutted you?

How does the abuse that year compare to the abuse the year before and the year before that?

Does he do drugs or drink?

He headbutted me and all that about a month ago.

Basically, the abuse year by year gradually got worse. When I was like 10 I remember he was always barking orders at me, he didn't really hit me, but when I turned 13 or 14, he started to hit me a little bit, and then from then over the months it's just gotten a lot worse.

He drinks and has a high tolerance, but he only drinks when he's pissed off. I don't think I've ever seen him drunk before because he's got such a high tolerance but he usually drinks after the incidents where he hits me and screams at me. Screaming I can accept, though.

[jimbo]

is he going to pay for your college education? assuming your gonna continue schooling

if he does then just take his shit for 2 more years and go dorm somewhere away from him. at least you'll have your education and you'll be able to get a decent job and do well on your own afterwards instead of throwing his ass in jail and earning minimum wage and trying to survive yaknow?

yeah i feel bad for suggesting it, but if i was in your shoes i'd do that unless my life was being threatin from the beatings

[Mysterio]

wtf is with all this fucked up advice...

Just go speak with a councillor at school, they're paid to help you deal with this sort of stuff.

Don't listen to all these fags telling you to stand up to him, that'll get the shit beaten out of you.

Go talk to a councillor, it will be difficult for you to explain it to them, but they're paid to help you with this stuff, like I said.

[Mysterio]

is he going to pay for your college education? assuming your gonna continue schooling

if he does then just take his shit for 2 more years and go dorm somewhere away from him. at least you'll have your education and you'll be able to get a decent job and do well on your own afterwards instead of throwing his ass in jail and earning minimum wage and trying to survive yaknow?

yeah i feel bad for suggesting it, but if i was in your shoes i'd do that unless my life was being threatin from the beatings

who cares if he may be paying for his college education... no one deserves constant beatings, regardless of the price.

There are student loans for post secondary, that won't be an issue.

[Fayttt]

wtf is with all this fucked up advice...

Just go speak with a councillor at school, they're paid to help you deal with this sort of stuff.

Don't listen to all these fags telling you to stand up to him, that'll get the shit beaten out of you.

Go talk to a councillor, it will be difficult for you to explain it to them, but they're paid to help you with this stuff, like I said.

I'll probably just end up standing up for myself by taking a couple hits and running for now, till monday, if something happens over the weekend.

is he going to pay for your college education? assuming your gonna continue schooling

if he does then just take his shit for 2 more years and go dorm somewhere away from him. at least you'll have your education and you'll be able to get a decent job and do well on your own afterwards instead of throwing his ass in jail and earning minimum wage and trying to survive yaknow?

yeah i feel bad for suggesting it, but if i was in your shoes i'd do that unless my life was being threatin from the beatings

He says he wants to, but I can't guarantee either me or my dad will be in good condition by the time I finish High School, heh. Plus, he's really poor, so I'll likely be on my own anyhow.

[Zalius]

A councilor (wtf that looks spelled wrong) is going to try to work it out between him and his dad which isn't an option.

[Devek]

Ok.. See the story sounds a little worse than you initially made it sound.

Has he ever tried to put his hands on you in a restraint, such as try to choke you or hold you down and hit you?

Basically.. I retract my earlier statements from the most part.

YOU ARE NOT SAFE.

IT WILL GET WORSE.

YOU COULD DIE.

Find your mother and find her fast, file a restraining order against your father, run away and suck dick on the street if you have to, just get the fuck out.

If you do not get treatment for this the rest of your life will suck, and because I told you this you will have no one to blame but yourself if you don't seek and get professional help.

This will make it difficult for you to form relationships with other people. You will never have true friends. You will never end up with a high quality woman. You most likely will become an alcoholic. You will fuck up your kids.

[Mysterio]

A councilor (wtf that looks spelled wrong) is going to try to work it out between him and his dad which isn't an option.

what do you mean "isn't an option" of course its an option.

Its an option for child services if its anywhere near as bad as he says it is.

Can't believe you think the councillor would go over to his house to sort it out lmao.