Alright, I need some advice BG.

[Bwelch]

First thing you should do is go to the school counselor this Monday before you start taking suggestions from some discussion board.

[Mysterio]

Ok.. See the story sounds a little worse than you initially made it sound.

Has he ever tried to put his hands on you in a restraint, such as try to choke you or hold you down and hit you?

Basically.. I retract my earlier statements from the most part.

YOU ARE NOT SAFE.

IT WILL GET WORSE.

YOU COULD DIE.

Find your mother and find her fast, file a restraining order against your father, run away and suck dick on the street if you have to, just get the fuck out.

If you do not get treatment for this the rest of your life will suck, and because I told you this you will have no one to blame but yourself if you don't seek and get professional help.

This will make it difficult for you to form relationships with other people. You will never have true friends. You will never end up with a high quality woman. You most likely will become an alcoholic. You will fuck up your kids.

Maybe you should see a councillor as well Devek, lol

[Mysterio]

First thing you should do is go to the school counselor this Monday before you start taking suggestions from some discussion board.

That has been suggested several times, lol

[Devek]

School counselors are a mixed bag.

Some will run in guns blazing with police and courts and social services.

Some will go above and beyond to avoid family disputes.

None of them have a Ph.D. and are able to treat trauma victims.

[Bartylby]

there could be more to the whole mom situation and he might blame or hate you for whatever happened even subconciously. you could try talking to him about going to counseling with you...

he looks for any little thing to get pissed at you right, obviously it's not those things thats pissing him off so much, he's just looking for any little thing to yell/hit you for so there is definately an underlieing issue.

talk to him about it but don't come right out and say what i said... he'd probly deny it and punch you in the face >.>

seek 3rd party help definately though. specially if he has no wish to talk straight up with you

*edit*

stay away from school counselers i agree, professionals only.

[Intense]

I'd recommend you talk to your school counselor or a teacher 1st before doing anything else. Calling the police could potentially cause more problems for you. I'd only call the police if you feel like your dad may end up killing you or severely hurting you.

Dont listen to this advice. Call the police ASAP and file a complaint. But you should know: when you do that, they might charge your dad with abuse/endangerment. If they do, they will forward the police reports to the DA and then the DA will decide on whether or not they want to prosecute.

p.s. Does Bartlebys sig make anyone else lag?

[Devek]

Naw, the moment he starts headbutting him there is no way to "work it out" in the time being. The only way that will ever happen is if his father goes to drug rehab and sobers up and totally changes his life. The amount of people who try to do that is so rare its pathetic and 90% who try just fail anyway.

[Intense]

Naw, the moment he starts headbutting him there is no way to "work it out" in the time being. The only way that will ever happen is if his father goes to drug rehab and sobers up and totally changes his life. The amount of people who try to do that is so rare its pathetic and 90% who try just fail anyway.

I agree, Im not sure why people are advising him to see a school counselor...

[Fayttt]

Ok.. See the story sounds a little worse than you initially made it sound.

Has he ever tried to put his hands on you in a restraint, such as try to choke you or hold you down and hit you?

Basically.. I retract my earlier statements from the most part.

YOU ARE NOT SAFE.

IT WILL GET WORSE.

YOU COULD DIE.

Find your mother and find her fast, file a restraining order against your father, run away and suck dick on the street if you have to, just get the fuck out.

If you do not get treatment for this the rest of your life will suck, and because I told you this you will have no one to blame but yourself if you don't seek and get professional help.

This will make it difficult for you to form relationships with other people. You will never have true friends. You will never end up with a high quality woman. You most likely will become an alcoholic. You will fuck up your kids.

Actually, thinking on all of this more and more does remind me of a incident around August '05 I think, it was the day Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire was coming out in theaters (Funny way to remember a day, but meh). I was planning on going to the movies with him (Didn't have a g/f at the time and really wanted to see it) to watch it, and we got into a huge ass argument. I was basically crying about something, I forgot what, and he told me to stop, I told him I couldnt and it was a natural human reaction, at which point he did actually grab my neck and slam me on the ground, I'll never forget that, my vision was blackening and shit, I know I would've been dead if it were another 5 seconds, I was trying to tell him I was dieing too through squawks in my throat. I know it sounds like its all fictional, but I just wasn't thinking about that shit. Some child service people did come a few weeks later to speak with my dad, and this was just when I thought I really did something bad so I didn't tell anybody about it.

[Mysterio]

I'd recommend you talk to your school counselor or a teacher 1st before doing anything else. Calling the police could potentially cause more problems for you. I'd only call the police if you feel like your dad may end up killing you or severely hurting you.

Dont listen to this advice. Call the police ASAP and file a complaint. But you should know: when you do that, they might charge your dad with abuse/endangerment. If they do, they will forward the police reports to the DA and then the DA will decide on whether or not they want to prosecute.

p.s. Does Bartlebys sig make anyone else lag?

Go to the police?

I'm sure his Dad will react just fabulous to that after they leave.

your school counsellor will suggest the appropriate action, or call the kids helpline in your area.

even if it turns out its not worth getting police involved it will still have been the right step.

[Intense]

I think someone asked before but do you have a Grandma or something you could live with? You mentioned friends, but I am referring to someone on a more permanent basis?

[Mysterio]

The counsellor will get the police involved if thats the case, which it sounds like it will be.

But immediately getting the cops involved may be jumping too quickly.

[Devek]

Actually, thinking on all of this more and more does remind me of a incident around August '05 I think, it was the day Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire was coming out in theaters (Funny way to remember a day, but meh). I was planning on going to the movies with him (Didn't have a g/f at the time and really wanted to see it) to watch it, and we got into a huge ass argument. I was basically crying about something, I forgot what, and he told me to stop, I told him I couldnt and it was a natural human reaction, at which point he did actually grab my neck and slam me on the ground, I'll never forget that, my vision was blackening and shit, I know I would've been dead if it were another 5 seconds, I was trying to tell him I was dieing too through squawks in my throat. I know it sounds like its all fictional, but I just wasn't thinking about that shit. Some child service people did come a few weeks later to speak with my dad, and this was just when I thought I really did something bad so I didn't tell anybody about it.

Next time he may not let go of your throat.

[Intense]

The counsellor will get the police involved if thats the case, which it sounds like it will be.

But immediately getting the cops involved may be jumping too quickly.

Have you not been reading what has happened?

[Fayttt]

I think someone asked before but do you have a Grandma or something you could live with? You mentioned friends, but I am referring to someone on a more permanent basis?

Nope, nobody related to me that I'm aware of where I live. Actually, I only know the whereabouts of my grandmother right now, and she's in like Washington while I'm way on the other side of the country.

[Mysterio]

I think someone asked before but do you have a Grandma or something you could live with? You mentioned friends, but I am referring to someone on a more permanent basis?

thats a good idea, stay with a relative for awhile, and fill them in on whats going on at home.

EDIT: ok forget that idea, since no one lives near you.

[Intense]

I think someone asked before but do you have a Grandma or something you could live with? You mentioned friends, but I am referring to someone on a more permanent basis?

Nope, nobody related to me that I'm aware of where I live. Actually, I only know the whereabouts of my grandmother right now, and she's in like Washington while I'm way on the other side of the country.

Ok so find out where she lives then? You must get out of this situation. Its not just going to magically go away dude.

[Fayttt]

I guess I could try, but it'd be a bitch to get over there.

[cassiraa]

If you do not get treatment for this the rest of your life will suck, and because I told you this you will have no one to blame but yourself if you don't seek and get professional help.

This will make it difficult for you to form relationships with other people. You will never have true friends. You will never end up with a high quality woman. You most likely will become an alcoholic. You will fuck up your kids.

Actually, thinking on all of this more and more does remind me of a incident around August '05 I think, it was the day Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire was coming out in theaters (Funny way to remember a day, but meh). I was planning on going to the movies with him (Didn't have a g/f at the time and really wanted to see it) to watch it, and we got into a huge ass argument. I was basically crying about something, I forgot what, and he told me to stop, I told him I couldnt and it was a natural human reaction, at which point he did actually grab my neck and slam me on the ground, I'll never forget that, my vision was blackening and shit, I know I would've been dead if it were another 5 seconds, I was trying to tell him I was dieing too through squawks in my throat. I know it sounds like its all fictional, but I just wasn't thinking about that shit. Some child service people did come a few weeks later to speak with my dad, and this was just when I thought I really did something bad so I didn't tell anybody about it.

Right now you have 2 choices,

1) attempt to do your best to resolve the situation. Do anything that you can.
2) Say you don't care, it's fine as is, and everything will be fine. Give up, and enjoy this horror.

That last story basically said he values "Being Right" more than he values your life.

[jimbo]

going to someone in the school = going to the police except it'll be the school calling the police instead of you doing it yourself

and i duno why the fuck those cops didn't do anything when you told them about the abuse..since you just mentioned that child services had been involved in the past