How to be a good wife (or girlfriend)

[Swatt]

http://nickzkcin.com/nick/goodwife.jpg

[Keno]

"Be a little gay"

lol, I love old shit like this. It really makes me question how people can take anything for truth or certainty in an age when our truths are constantly evolving and social norms are never in place for more than a few years.

[Norelco]

Heh, back then gay meant happy. It's not as funny as it sounds.

I love this. I just sent it to my fiance.

[Hitoshura]

Why are some parts underlined? Are they suppose to be offending? If I had a lazy ass housewife just sitting around all day while I supported her, I would expect these things too. Well minus the going out all night part without being questioned, I would never do that.

[Keno]

Heh, back then gay meant happy. It's not as funny as it sounds.

I love this. I just sent it to my fiance.

I'm well aware that "gay" is synonymous with "happy". I just thought the way they worded it was pretty funny, as if being too gay were a bad thing.

[divisortheory]

This looks fake to me, lol. I could be wrong I guess.

[Norelco]

This looks fake to me, lol. I could be wrong I guess.

I'm pretty sure that's how things were in the fifties. Makes me long for those days. Get a hawt car, and an obedient wife.

[Septimus]

I believe that this particular article was posted before. It may have been during the missing time though.

But I'm sure that modern husbands would like it if they came home to their wives being a "little gay". (As long as they got to watch.)

[SephYuyX]

People is spelled wrong.

[Ddz]

I don't understand why people get married.

[Exoduso]

This article is great...

[MF Perm]

I don't understand why people get married.

Misery loves company.

[Stilgar]

I don't understand why people get married.

It's a social institution designed for a ton of reasons, such as helping to ensure the father of any offspring sticks around to help raise them, and also to provide something called a "family unit" to any children the relationship has created. Millions of years of evolution have taught us that this is a very effective way to continue the survival of the species. Pair bonding is very common throughout nature, and human marriage is an outgrowth of that tendency.

[Septimus]

I don't understand why people get married.

Because people are so terrified of being alone that they will stay with someone with whom they share nothing in common and eventually grow to despise. We have been taught by our society that we are incomplete if not glued to the hip of another person, any other person, and the vast majority of people believe it. So they flit from one disastrous relationship to another not realizing that they must work on themselves before they should try to be with someone else to avoid inflicting their various neuroses and other annoying emotional baggage upon an otherwise innocent human being.

But I've been told that my view of marriage is rather negative.

[Intense]

But I've been told that my view of marriage is rather negative.

All you discussed was the insecurities of people; Id like to hear your views on marriage itself though.

[Septimus]

But I've been told that my view of marriage is rather negative.

All you discussed was the insecurities of people; Id like to hear your views on marriage itself though.

That 90% or more of all marriages are doomed to be swirling vortexes of misery and bitterness that should have never come to pass. Most marriages are populated by miserable people trying to stave off the fear that we are ultimately alone in the universe, so they desperately cling to the first convenient person that comes along and call it love no matter how much unlike love it actually is. And that all of these people in the doomed marriages would ultimately find themselves much happier if they divorced their miserable spouses and worked on themselves to be better, more well-rounded human beings and filled their lives with the platonic love of friends instead of focusing on being with "the one".

[Malaquist]

I like the ideal of marriage. I think having a permanent support system up until one of you dies would be a good thing. You'll run into fights every so often, but that's what happens when you have someone around you all the time. I'm sure it has its low points, but so have most of my friendships, and if you're not afraid to work on them you can usually stick it out.

Because people are so terrified of being alone that they will stay with someone with whom they share nothing in common and eventually grow to despise. We have been taught by our society that we are incomplete if not glued to the hip of another person, any other person, and the vast majority of people believe it. So they flit from one disastrous relationship to another not realizing that they must work on themselves before they should try to be with someone else to avoid inflicting their various neuroses and other annoying emotional baggage upon an otherwise innocent human being.

That being said, admittedly there are too many people that do pretty much exactly what this said. I have a trail of exes because when it came down to it we had nothing in common except one or two things, and you can only follow one thing so far before you both tire of it. I don't so much actively seek out relationships as stumble into them, which I think is sort of better since I'm not afraid to step back and see if it's going to actually accomplish anything or not. Most people won't be entirely honest with themselves or whoever they're dating and will just end up in trouble later; I find it a lot easier to be controlling and clingy from the start so they can get out if they have a problem with it. Strangely enough, I've never been dumped.

If I had a lazy ass housewife just sitting around all day while I supported her, I would expect these things too.

I think it would be rather dull to have someone completely subservient to you. If you can't think of someone as an equal you probably shouldn't be dating them, let alone married to them.

And that all of these people in the doomed marriages would ultimately find themselves much happier if they divorced their miserable spouses and worked on themselves to be better, more well-rounded human beings and filled their lives with the platonic love of friends instead of focusing on being with "the one".

Well, why can't you have good friends, a fulfilling personal life and a spouse? I think the idea of one person in the entire world that was just meant for you is sort of sappy since even if you met with someone that should be "perfect" for you, both of you would have to put some sort of effort into the relationship. I think a lasting relationship could work with a variety of people depending on how much you were willing to sacrifice, so people looking for Mr. Right should probably reconsider how they're approaching love.

[Keno]

I don't understand why people get married.

It's a social institution designed for a ton of reasons, such as helping to ensure the father of any offspring sticks around to help raise them, and also to provide something called a "family unit" to any children the relationship has created. Millions of years of evolution have taught us that this is a very effective way to continue the survival of the species. Pair bonding is very common throughout nature, and human marriage is an outgrowth of that tendency.

qft. It's just how it is with all monogamous animals on this planet. It's more efficient to stay with your mate for means of reproduction, raising the offspring, etc.; which as anyone who knows anything about science or psychology will tell you, is the main purpose for living.

[evilbau]

I don't understand why people get married.

i think i'm obliged to include this link

http://www.dont-marry.com

since ppl got all crazy last time, i don't believe everything thats said here but it makes its point and has lots of references.

[Ddz]

I don't understand why people get married.

Because people are so terrified of being alone that they will stay with someone with whom they share nothing in common and eventually grow to despise. We have been taught by our society that we are incomplete if not glued to the hip of another person, any other person, and the vast majority of people believe it. So they flit from one disastrous relationship to another not realizing that they must work on themselves before they should try to be with someone else to avoid inflicting their various neuroses and other annoying emotional baggage upon an otherwise innocent human being.

But I've been told that my view of marriage is rather negative.

Yeah I'm pretty negative about marriage too....mental concepts devised by the insecurities of humanity carry a lot of doubt in my personal mind. I'm far too idealistic to be fit for any marriage; I'm also realistic so I know I'll never have an ideal marriage, haha. Traditional marriage is definitely not for me. It sucks, but I've come to accept that fact. I also don't long to have children, either..so I guess I'll be all right. I have no problem being alone; in fact I think everyone should spend at least 1-2 years living by themselves. It's a great "skill" to have!

I just don't see why people want to tie each other down; go out and do your own thing and fend for yourself. Life's pretty fucking grand when you're not worrying about what someone else is doing all of the time, and how they're going to somehow "complete" the mess that is you. Two wholes are a hell of a lot better than two halves. That "you complete me" bullshit is fucking stupid.