
1) This isn't real life. I don't care what sort of parallel you're trying to make, the moral implications of blue light specialing your darters is nowhere near committing a felony or ruining your marriage. It's the easiest way to throw your own argument out of the window, just trash it. Furthermore I, at no point in my life while in a relationship (which admittedly is rather few and far between), have cheated on anyone regardless of the justification.
2) I don't give two shits about whether or not it's cheating. The point of a cheat is to give yourself an unfair advantage against either the system or other people subject to the restrictions provided by said system. If you kill darters, you effectively take the advantage out of the cheater's hands. Bam, done. The difference at that point becomes aesthetic. You turn removing darters into the equivalent of dat swapping your osode. At that point it doesn't make a damn lick of difference whether or not someone's trying to get one up on you and the rest of the planeteers, they lost their edge. If you don't, then you package the mob and hand it over to them. It's your prerogative, but all that effort you're putting into shining your boy scout badges could be put towards actually claiming the mob, maybe.
When someone swaps avatars out do you whine about it or turn /ignorepet on?