Quit spouting when you don't know what you're talking about. It's quite easy for melees to get elegied a time or two during a merit party, provided their shadows are down - and easier for the pulling BRD to get elegied.
There's a delay after you cast elegy before the mob casts it back on you, and when I was pulling on BRD throughout the non-linking Colibri, my melees often provoked very fast, even before it cast again, and that gives a 50% chance that the elegy is going to be cast on them instead of me. Not to mention Elegy -> Sleep, more often than not, causes the Colibri to cast Elegy and then Sleep afterwards, and I would hope as BRD you don't have hate by the time it wakes up. Casting another song definitely doesn't make them forget the song before, and I tested this countless times by casting multiple threnodies after lullabies, to try and block out lullaby.
Oh and Kaslo, Greater Birds don't reflect.
PS: I'd have to say "If no one but your BRD in your group is getting elegied, then your group sucks at crowd control." in response to what you said at the bottom of your post. DRK/WAR is win in low level Colibri merit.
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Originally Posted by
ruf
Scholar Discussion attempt #2.
Right-o, so how about those Helices? <_<