what now?

[chillin]

blabhalbhabhbhah abortion lol blakbababk

ur a faggit

[Plow]

Probably depends on the reasoning really...

If she got pregnant on accident just fucking around, wasn't ready and got an abortion...



Then went out and didn't use birth control or condoms or anything and did it again...


Probably not too bright... or just completely doesn't care I dunno...

[Faris]

Dude....you should be so happy. Now you know she isn't a virgin. Go go go goooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

Btw- Never listen to Firas. Remember, the guy is UAE.

I AM UAE, AND YOU ARE AMERICA! YAE YAEEE!!!!

yeah shes not a virgin, thats so hard to find nowadays since we live in victorian era!

[Day]

When I was 19 my girlfriend and I decided to get an abortion. (well more like she decided, and I said "ok"), whats really fucked up is that it didn't work the first time. Something like a 1 in 100,000 chance or something. We even got accused of fucking during the 2 week period before her check up. So she had to get another one performed. Pretty much the worst month of my life.

Maybe its her?

[ferigor]

Just because she's had 2 abortions doesn't mean she's a slut, it just means she's had 2 abortions. You didn't say very much about her, so we don't really have anything to gauge her sexual history on, but maybe she just did it with 2 potent dudes or something? Anyways, the thing I did notice was that you've only been seeing her for like 3 weeks? I think that's pretty awesome that she was honest with you about something so controversial like that, most sluts are huge liars. Personally, I'd give it a shot, but it also depends on how interested you are in this girl otherwise.

In the words of the immortal Diesel Boy:
"It doesn't make you a slut, cause baby you can fuck."

[clover]

imo opinion one abortion someone could just look over. obviously she made a mistake and didn't know what to do. however, two abortions seems like she doesn't care about all the other options there are to prevent pregnancy. i just think abortion should be the last resort and if women don't want to get pregnant then they should be using proper birth control.

[Denchi]

2 Abortions? That's a mistake you should only make once, if ever. I'd kick her to the curb.

I know people can make mistakes, even twice, but that just doesn't sound good. Cut your losses and move on. Better to move on now than get invested and realize she's an immoral hoebag later.

[Mizango]

If you are ganna live your life surrounding yourself by people that will only agree with you, than you will have one sad life.

QFT.

Either way, atleast you know she puts out. Get her in the sack, smash and dash and cut your losses is you feel that strongly about it. In the long run you will kick yourself if you develop feelings and you still feel nauseas at the thought of her past choices of abortions. Feeling that way and continuing is not fair to either of you.

Most people in this forum are liberal. Just a heads up lol.

[Woozie]

Sounds like he's more concerned with his beliefs against abortions than the possibility of her sleeping around, in which case:

If you are ganna live your life surrounding yourself by people that will only agree with you, than you will have one sad life.

Conversely, if you build what would arguably be one of the most important relationships in your life around a person with whom you have a core difference, you're setting yourself (and her) up for massive problems later on.

Anyways it sounds like you already know the answer to your own question. You've only been dating her for three weeks. Some people don't find out about these things until they're already in too deep. Consider yourself lucky?

What he said.

[Day]

In the end dude, fuck other's opinions... but I'll share mine.

I don't think you should be so quick to judge people because of their past mistakes. She was open and honest about this with you, and that says a lot imo. Yeah, 2 abortions is a pretty damn big deal, but still, if she never told you and you never knew would she be any different to you? Are you totally pro-life? If so, then ya, probably not going to work out anyways.

Maybe it's b/c of my past deal with the abortion that this strikes a nerve with me. I was a completely different person back then and I shutter to think anyone would hold something like that against me. If they would, then I probably didnt need/want to be with them anyway.

I really dont think you needed to come here for any type of relationship advice. As much as I love BG, this is probably the last place you want to take any kind of serious life advice from. (Yes, I feel the delicious ironing as I type this out). At the end of the day, its up to you, we really dont know enough about you or her to give you any quality advice, it's all going to be blanket statements fueled by pro-life/pro-choice beliefs. Good luck in whatever you choose to do though, just my 2 cents.

[Denchi]

Right, in the end abortion is just a decision like any other, it just happens to carry this terrible "OMG!" baggage. It was her decision and that's fine, I don't hold it against her or anything, but it would change my opinion of her. Like I said, I think it takes a certain type of person to make a decision like that. Just like I probably wouldn't date a girl with a lot of tattoos or piercings. I might, but in general the type of girl that does that type of thing is not my type because of that decision to get tatted up. It would take a certain type of girl to get 2 abortions (aka, a dumb, lustful, airheaded girl) but again, I don't know her, I don't know her circumstances, maybe she's a nice girl.

To each their own, but be careful. Anyone who makes bad decisions on a regular basis tends to... you know.....follow that pattern.

[sexxxytaru]

The reason why I get so IRRITATED with abortion is that it's SO easy to prevent.
Get down to Planned Parenthood.. get put on the pill FOR FREE..WITH NO INSURANCE
OR.. go to your doctor and get a prescription for the pill and pay a measly five dollars a month at your local CVS.
Hell, you can even score free condoms at the above mentioned places.
I have no sympathy anymore for people that sleep around.. get pregnant.. and/or contract STDs.
It's SO easy to prevent if you just care, think a little, and act.

[guartz]

2 abortions?

Run, far.

[clover]

The reason why I get so IRRITATED with abortion is that it's SO easy to prevent.
Get down to Planned Parenthood.. get put on the pill FOR FREE..WITH NO INSURANCE
OR.. go to your doctor and get a prescription for the pill and pay a measly five dollars a month at your local CVS.
Hell, you can even score free condoms at the above mentioned places.
I have no sympathy anymore for people that sleep around.. get pregnant.. and/or contract STDs.
It's SO easy to prevent if you just care, think a little, and act.

what i was trying to say. except better.

[Day]

If this turns into another abortion debate it will get locked faster than W. Legs and Mazurka.

I will say this though, even with all that preventative shit you listed, shit can and will happen. Things like rape, doctors telling the girl she can't get preggers (was my situation), broken condoms, alchohol taking over judgment... shit happens. Sure sometimes its plain ol neglect/laziness, but it's not always the case, you can't be so fast to judge people that have been through this.

Lets try to stay on topic with this one though... don't want to see the lock quite yet :X

[clover]

i know accidents happen. it's just that with all the available birth control, imo two abortions should be easy to prevent.

[Chastiti]

Well, since she already threw it out there that she did have two abortions, did she give you any back story on why? Or was it more of a "Oh, yeah, I've had 2" and just move on to the next topic?

I disagree with most people here, because it's not about judging her, as much as not agreeing with her lifestyle. I can't stand guys that think getting trashed 5 nights a week is the cool thing to do and so I've never dated those kinds of guys. Do I judge them? No, I don't give a shit what they choose to do with their time, it's just not what I want for me, so I don't do it.

But you answered your question just by posting here, if it bothered you that much, then cut your losses and move on. It all depends on the back story of her abortions. If she just uses it as a form of birth control, then I would be disgusted as well. But there are situations where it would be necessary.

[pohibaba]

I don't understand how the murder of a life can consistently be considered a "mistake" by so many on this board. With that said, I would dump her.

[Beckwin]

R[evol]ution yo

[Woozie]

I will say this though, even with all that preventative shit you listed, shit can and will happen. Things like rape, doctors telling the girl she can't get preggers (was my situation), broken condoms, alchohol taking over judgment... shit happens. Sure sometimes its plain ol neglect/laziness, but it's not always the case, you can't be so fast to judge people that have been through this.

That would be more likely if she only had one abortion. When there's two, it's still possible, but doubtful.