Thoughts on this predicament

[Demosthenes]

You will be wasting your time. You're going to go for it anyway, but you will be wasting your time. Any person that is unhappy with what they have/where they are, and does not strive to make changes to better themselves or their situation is also not worth the time.

[Norelco]

Considering the OP needed to come here to ask advice on what to do with this succubus, I'd say he's not mentally prepared at the moment to handle this situation.

[BerenTebogo]

Stop being a faggot, let people sort out their own fucking problems, if she wants to come to you when she's single let her come to you.

Don't be some pussy who sits around waiting for some shit that 99% won't work out anyways, there's millions of women in the world, yes, most of them are fat, or ugly, but not all. Go find someone else and stop being emo.

Edit: I think it should be noted that I think anyone who pursues anyone who is in a relationship of any kind should be shot, get some fucking morals jesus fucking christ.

[HAcoreRD]

Keep in mind most girls don't jump from one relationship to another, so you'll have atleast 6 months after she ends her current one, depending on how serious she is. especially if she's after love.

[kuronosan]

Well for me, I think I'm done giving this guy advice. Not because he won't follow it, but because he came here asking for it knowing that he was still going to try anyway (because he's head over heels for her).

There isn't anything you can do for someone who's fallen that hard and is that determined to get what he thinks he wants, so just let him go for it. Best we can do now is give him cushion advice in the event that it doesn't work out (which in all likelihood, it won't).

[Norelco]

This is the type of scenario that leads to school shootings.

[BerenTebogo]

I think more people like the OP need to be shot.

[Skeeter]

Theres quite a few things you should probably consider before getting your self into a situation like this, one of the biggest would be what kind of guy is her boyfriend. Is he the jealous type? My older step brother Pat got involved w/ a woman who had just broke up w/ her boyfriend a couple weeks earlier, Her ex was extremely jealous and obviously depressed and ended up shooting my brother in the back of his head, he was only in his young 20s and wanted to be a fire fighter, such a waste of life over something so stupid . Its an extreme example but there are many bad things that could come from this. I would advise just keeping in touch but don't lead her on or influence her decision, if she ditches the guy wait a couple weeks/months and see if she is still interested.

[Norelco]

Theres quite a few things you should probably consider before getting your self into a situation like this, one of the biggest would be what kind of guy is her boyfriend. Is he the jealous type? My older step brother Pat got involved w/ a woman who had just broke up w/ her boyfriend a couple weeks earlier, Her ex was extremely jealous and obviously depressed and ended up shooting my brother in the back of his head, he was only in his young 20s and wanted to be a fire fighter, such a waste of life over something so stupid . Its an extreme example but there are many bad things that could come from this. I would advise just keeping in touch but don't lead her on or influence her decision, if she ditches the guy wait a couple weeks/months and see if she is still interested.

Gees man. That's fucking horrible. My sincere apologies.

[Tyche]

If you go through with this, will you keep us updated on the epic failure that will ensue?

[Norelco]

Arlania, this situation sounds SO familiar. Which server do you play on in FFXI? Does this girl play FFXI as well?

[kuronosan]

If the situation sounds familiar, it's because it happens more often than most people really know - which is why it happens so often in the first place. People always think their situation is different.

[Norelco]

If the situation sounds familiar, it's because it happens more often than most people really know - which is why it happens so often in the first place. People always think their situation is different.

Yeah, but making it more familiar is the fact that this chick is/was from Florida.

[SephYuyX]

If the situation sounds familiar, it's because it happens more often than most people really know - which is why it happens so often in the first place. People always think their situation is different.

Yeah, but making it more familiar is the fact that this chick is/was from Florida.

I really dont think that narrows it down any considering everyone and their mother lives in CA or FL it seems. 9/10 chance you ask where a person lives, it's CA or FL >.>

[Norelco]

If the situation sounds familiar, it's because it happens more often than most people really know - which is why it happens so often in the first place. People always think their situation is different.

Yeah, but making it more familiar is the fact that this chick is/was from Florida.

I really dont think that narrows it down any considering everyone and their mother lives in CA or FL it seems. 9/10 chance you ask where a person lives, it's CA or FL >.>

That's why I asked server they played on and if this chick also played FFXI. That narrows it down quite a bit.

[isladar]

Any guy that's persued me while I've been in a relationship has definitely been "Mr. Wrong". You know why? Because they're not interested in me as a person, they're interested (as someone else very correctly pointed out), in feeling like a 'better man' than whomever I happened to be with at the time.

And anytime I've jumped into another relationship soon after one's ended -- well, its gone poorly.

Women who fish for their next boyfriend while they're still with someone don't think you're special, you're just fucking convenient (or convenient to fuck). They either lack the sense of self-worth to end a relationship that they supposedly are unhappy with, or the wherewithal to work to get their current relationship back on track. As my father likes to say "Well, are you going to do something or are you going to bitch about it?" Anyone who displays that kind of laziness and lack of character is probably someone who isn't capable of participating in a fulfilling romantic interaction.

One thing to consider is that its very unlikely that women who repeat this pattern are doing it with a sense of conscious maliciousness. They're completely ignorant to 'why this keeps happening'. To me, that's the greater offense. Someone trying to hurt you is fairly transparent.. its the blindingly stupid that make you keep saying "maybe it'll be different this time". Its also the blindingly stupid that keeps participating in it.

[Mizango]

If you go through with this, will you keep us updated on the epic failure that will ensue?

Yes please.

[Tonko]

Any guy that's persued me while I've been in a relationship has definitely been "Mr. Wrong". You know why? Because they're not interested in me as a person, they're interested (as someone else very correctly pointed out), in feeling like a 'better man' than whomever I happened to be with at the time.

And anytime I've jumped into another relationship soon after one's ended -- well, its gone poorly.

Women who fish for their next boyfriend while they're still with someone don't think you're special, you're just fucking convenient (or convenient to fuck). They either lack the sense of self-worth to end a relationship that they supposedly are unhappy with, or the wherewithal to work to get their current relationship back on track. As my father likes to say "Well, are you going to do something or are you going to bitch about it?" Anyone who displays that kind of laziness and lack of character is probably someone who isn't capable of participating in a fulfilling romantic interaction.

One thing to consider is that its very unlikely that women who repeat this pattern are doing it with a sense of conscious maliciousness. They're completely ignorant to 'why this keeps happening'. To me, that's the greater offense. Someone trying to hurt you is fairly transparent.. its the blindingly stupid that make you keep saying "maybe it'll be different this time". Its also the blindingly stupid that keeps participating in it.

Quite fucking true.

OP: You come here asking for advice, and only pay attention to the people who give you the answer you were seeking, which is the vast minority of people who have replied.

GTFO

[Septimus]

Any guy that's persued me while I've been in a relationship has definitely been "Mr. Wrong". You know why? Because they're not interested in me as a person, they're interested (as someone else very correctly pointed out), in feeling like a 'better man' than whomever I happened to be with at the time.

And anytime I've jumped into another relationship soon after one's ended -- well, its gone poorly.

Women who fish for their next boyfriend while they're still with someone don't think you're special, you're just fucking convenient (or convenient to fuck). They either lack the sense of self-worth to end a relationship that they supposedly are unhappy with, or the wherewithal to work to get their current relationship back on track. As my father likes to say "Well, are you going to do something or are you going to bitch about it?" Anyone who displays that kind of laziness and lack of character is probably someone who isn't capable of participating in a fulfilling romantic interaction.

One thing to consider is that its very unlikely that women who repeat this pattern are doing it with a sense of conscious maliciousness. They're completely ignorant to 'why this keeps happening'. To me, that's the greater offense. Someone trying to hurt you is fairly transparent.. its the blindingly stupid that make you keep saying "maybe it'll be different this time". Its also the blindingly stupid that keeps participating in it.

Quite fucking true.

OP: You come here asking for advice, and only pay attention to the people who give you the answer you were seeking, which is the vast minority of people who have replied.

GTFO

Hello, my name is Septimus, I will be your Cassandra for the evening.

[Kwijiboe]

Am I too late? Am I?!


Simply put-- If she had to choose between you and her current boyfriend at this exact moment. She'd choose her boyfriend.



Move on.