Looking for opinions on marriage

[Alleya]

Why don't gays get married in secret if they already get all the fiscal benefits of marriage anyway? Is the FBI going to storm in your house and arrest you if you call your domestic partner your husband?

Is this a woosh?

You can't get married in secret. The law doesn't recognize homosexual marriage, so you don't get the benefits.

And if Mitt Romney had his way, the FBI would storm your house. Or Mike Huckabee would put you in a camp.

edit:

It is pretty much agreed that that debate is over, as it is better understood now that they both work together.

I look at it this way. Nature vs nuture: Either way it's your parents' fault.

[Stolin]

Why don't gays get married in secret if they already get all the fiscal benefits of marriage anyway? Is the FBI going to storm in your house and arrest you if you call your domestic partner your husband?

Is this a woosh?

You can't get married in secret. The law doesn't recognize homosexual marriage, so you don't get the benefits.

And if Mitt Romney had his way, the FBI would storm your house. Or Mike Huckabee would put you in a camp.

Oh, I thought they had civil unions or whatever now. Its my ignorance of anything going on outside of my house.

[Lexa]

Why don't gays get married in secret if they already get all the fiscal benefits of marriage anyway? Is the FBI going to storm in your house and arrest you if you call your domestic partner your husband?

Is this a woosh?

You can't get married in secret. The law doesn't recognize homosexual marriage, so you don't get the benefits.

And if Mitt Romney had his way, the FBI would storm your house. Or Mike Huckabee would put you in a camp.

Oh, I thought they had civil unions or whatever now. Its my ignorance of anything going on outside of my house.

Civil unions =/= marriage, a lot of places.

In my country, we've had civil unions for a number of years, but all it basically means is, "OK, now you're married, but not really, and you won't get any benefits and you won't get to adopt! Have fun!"

[HAcoreRD]

my stance on marriage: Single people shouldn't be taxed more.

[Fallso]

If you can realise that getting married to your long term partner (assumptions assumptions!) is really nothing more than wearing another ring on your finger and a surname change then you're golden.

[Septimus]

I don't really believe in marriage, even though oddly enough I'm engaged. Ok not really oddly, my place of employment only covers hetero couples if they are married. However, if I liked cock I could get away without being married, as long as I lived my homo boyfriend, and have insurance cover him. I thought about a lawsuit, but career > lawsuit, so I am stuck getting married if I want to stop having to pay for my woman's medical and dental. I do love her of course, and can see myself spending the rest of my life with her anyway, so if getting married gives us benefits, then whatever. We'll wear rings and have insurance.

Yup, isn't it so awesome that homosexuals have the choice to get benefits for their partners even if they don't get married. Oh, wait...

Yes, unmarried opposite-sex partners should get the option to have domestic partner benefits, but same-sex partners should also get the option to get married.

And I don't say that because I want to get married, I've seen too many divorces in my time to add another to the pile.

Yeah I agree Septimus. While I'm not a believer in marriage, if other people want to, gay or straight, they should be able to. However, there is a distinction here in my opinion. I'm basically forced into marriage for the sake of my partner's health, but if I was gay I'd have coverage without the ability to enter into that kind of commitment.

I think that nearly every gay person who is covered under Domestic Partner benefits would give up the ability to do so if they could get legally married.

[Intense]

my stance on marriage: Single people shouldn't be taxed more.

Definately agree. I use less resources as a single man with no children.

[sephir]

If your going to get married hire a planner....seriously this least summer my brother got married and he asked me to help set it up. Needless to say I went about 3 weeks of 1 hour a night sleeps because you cant imagine just how many small details there are to a wedding.

Seating plans(cant put this person here, where to put tables, put these people with who etc.)
Flowers(how much, where to order from, what kind, what time can they deliver, any insurrance etc.)
Invitations (who to invite, if they changed addresses, following up etc.)
Food (allergies of 50+ people, what to serve, where to get cake, peoples preferences, who will cater)

I could go on for about 50 lines of this nonsense that goes on in planning a wedding so do yourself a favour and pay the extra $500 for one, its well worth your sleep, health and your sanity