Help me understand women...

[Norelco]

OK BG'ers...you're all opinionated...give me differing opinions on this one.

Help me understand women.

My wife and I just settled into our first home a month ago. We've been pretty diligent with painting, remodeling, fixing things up in the house.

We're currently working on our family room...painting, putting in new carpeting, a new sliding glass door, etc. Pretty expensive proposition.

My parents just came up from Florida for a visit. In our kitchen we have 2 new appliances and a very old stove. My dad thought it would be a nice idea for him to buy us a new stove to match our 2 other new appliances.

My wife on the other hand...is thinking in more practical terms. She thinks as long as the stove is in working order, there's no reason for us to get a new one.

She'd rather have money to put into the family room. While I sort of agree with her that the money this new stove is going to cost us would be of better use elsewhere, there's the notion that we shouldn't get to dictate how my parents should spend their money on us.

How do I get this message across to my wife? I figure we'll need to replace the stove in a few years anyway and that we shouldn't look a gift horse in the mouth. It's one less thing to worry about in the future. I also said that she should just pretend that my parents weren't going to give us anything (really, they didn't have to. It was a complete surprise when they offered it to us). My wife isn't being gracious about it at all (to me).

My dad pretty much said it's a stove, or nothing at all. With that in mind...I'll gladly take a brand new free stove.

[Daydreamer]

Just go read The Game by Neil Strauss and go pick up other women.

Problem solved.

[Myst]

sounds like she's on her rag. give it a week and try again.

[Day]

Tell her she's going to need this stove for all the time she's going to be barefoot in the kitchen, what the hell.

[Fhqwghads]

Tell her she's going to need this stove for all the time she's going to be barefoot in the kitchen, what the hell.

This.

[Andri]

So it's just about what your wife is saying to you? She is treating your parents with respect and thanking them for their generosity right?

If the above is the case, meh she's just voicing her feelings to you. You are right in the matter though, it's better to thank your parents and accept their gift, even though you could use the cash elsewhere. What does she want you to do? Turn them down, risk hurting their feelings and take nothing at all?

Just explain to her as you have been, you don't want to hurt their feelings and you will need the stove eventually. You'll just have to keep redoing the livingroom on your own budget.

(and I am female, have re-done a house and been faced with my parents wanting to buy me the wrong things, but they love me and that's all that matters.)

[Myst]

convince your parents to buy your wife a hysterectomy instead.

[Norelco]

So it's just about what your wife is saying to you? She is treating your parents with respect and thanking them for their generosity right?

If the above is the case, meh she's just voicing her feelings to you. You are right in the matter though, it's better to thank your parents and accept their gift, even though you could use the cash elsewhere. What does she want you to do? Turn them down, risk hurting their feelings and take nothing at all?

Just explain to her as you have been, you don't want to hurt their feelings and you will need the stove eventually. You'll just have to keep redoing the livingroom on your own budget.

(and I am female, have re-done a house and been faced with my parents wanting to buy me the wrong things, but they love me and that's all that matters.)

Heh, this is a really good post. Thank you.

[Norelco]

sounds like she's on her rag. give it a week and try again.

lol actually, she is this week. good call.

[Day]

Now correct me if I'm wrong but I was under the impression that the week before the period is when girls hormones go apeshit, at least that's what I gather from my gf that turns into a walking, talking, explosion of estrogen beforehand.

Anyways, I would be interested in the thought process of your wife wanting to turn down a free stove. Them bitches be expensive.

[Mizango]

lol actually, she is this week. good call.

Beat me to it lol.

[Andri]

Now correct me if I'm wrong but I was under the impression that the week before the period is when girls hormones go apeshit, at least that's what I gather from my gf that turns into a walking, talking, explosion of estrogen beforehand.

You are correct, sir. But also repeatedly asking for blow jobs while she is on her period could prolong its effects.

[Ryko]

Y'know miz, that makes you Potsie.

No one liked Potsie.

[Day]

You are correct, sir. But also repeatedly asking for blow jobs while she is on her period could prolong its effects.

Hilarious. I like you.

[Shuemue]

Now correct me if I'm wrong but I was under the impression that the week before the period is when girls hormones go apeshit, at least that's what I gather from my gf that turns into a walking, talking, explosion of estrogen beforehand.

Anyways, I would be interested in the thought process of your wife wanting to turn down a free stove. Them bitches be expensive.

You're totally wrong.

There's Pre-Menstrual Tension, OMG I'M ON THE RAG I'M BATSHIT CRAZY and finally Post-Menstrual Stress.

The Pre and Post may be mixed up, but what it boils down to is that three weeks out of four they're insane and grouchy.

[Day]

idk shue I'll agree with the 3 out of 4 weeks, but I'm pretty sure PMS stands for Premenstrual Syndrome.

[Shuemue]

The Pre and Post may be mixed up

lrn2read

[Tyche]

I say this with no sarcasm what-so-ever...

My fiancee will not question me on matters of money and financial sinks. We have a couple of bank accounts and I control the flows of all of them. If something like this came up, I would dictate where the money goes and how it should be spent (I'd take the stove, as the living room can be fixed little by little...if the stove goes out, you're out one large lump sum at one time). I'm easily the most controlling person I've ever met. Sometimes she hates it, sometimes it's a lifesaver for her. She doesn't have to deal with the stress of finances and getting bills in and out on time.

[Day]

lrn2read

Actually it was the "Syndrome" that I was talking about not the pre and post but whatever, you can't wait to just jump all over somebody's shit.

[Shuemue]

lol that's fucking rich coming from you... the kid who has decided he's funny and needs to spam the shit out of every thread.