So, I've been trying to help out with a "pro per" (non-lawyer) divorce. I assumed that, since my father was a practicing lawyer not too many years ago, that it would be rather easy for me to figure out all the forms etc., but the Proof of Service form has been a legitimate pain in the ass. I've looked all over the Internetz, went to the local law library, and asked my father what he thought of the form, but so far I haven't been able to get the answer I really need.

The problem is basically this:

For the most part, all the Proof of Service forms I've looked at online are a completely separate form from the Acknowledgment of Service form that the defendant should sign. So in that case it would be possible for the Acknowledgment to be served separately, and the Proof of Service could be filled out separately. In Michigan (not sure about other states) both parts are on a single form. From what I've read, the defendant signing an Acknowledgment of Service is enough to prove that service has been made. (Basically, it's either the acknowledgment OR the proof form filled out by an officer or court official saying when/where the legal forms were sent OR some sort of affidavit that will count as proof of service.) Is this correct? In other words, within that single form (Proof/Acknowledgment), as long as the defendant has filled out and signed the Acknowledgment portion of it, is that enough to be filed with the court in order for the divorce to proceed? Or do both the Proof and Acknowledgment portions need to be properly filled out and signed by the appropriate individuals in order for the case to legally proceed/be valid?

If the Acknowlegment and Proof (on the same form) BOTH need to be filled out, is there a particular procedure that is the "only" right way to do it? For example, is it possible to serve the Proof/Acknowledgment form on the defendant to sign, and then after it is returned, fill out the appropriate information regarding when it was mailed to the defendant and have it notarized? (In other words, do the forms have to be filled out and dated "chronologically," or can it be done in either order so long as the information is correct?) Or can two copies of the forms be made, one to serve as the "Proof" alone and one to serve as the "Acknowledgment" alone, and both can be turned in to the court?

I plan on going to the courthouse next Friday when I have time to see if one of the clerks there can't possibly just give me a yes or no answer on what is legitimate. But thats quite a ways off, so I figured in the meantime I'd ask you fine people if you knew anything at all. I know it's a long-shot, but any input would be appreciated; thank you. :D