Huge fucker post about girlfriend </3

[BerenTebogo]

emo

[BerenTebogo]

Also BG isn't your livejournal - wtf is with the pre-teen drama around here lately? Jesus fucking christ.

[Khalil]

I'm more surprised he hasn't found a job in over 7 months when I found 2 jobs in the spam of a month. But hey, I guess you're really unlucky.

P.S. We're not your fucking pillow nor shoulder, man up, slap the hoe and move on.

[Abandon]

Move on. Plain and simple.

[Talus]

I forgot to add another thing. Her mom has problems. She used to take medication for these problems but one day she just up and decided she didn't need her medication anymore. Jess's grandmother (her mom's mom committed suicide) I can't help but think that her mom's mental problems have perhaps been passed down to jess.

I'm not sure how to describe the problems her mom has. It's like one day her mom can be completely fine and will let us do anything. The next jess will be grounded for not telling her mom she went to taco bell on the way home.

Get out while you can. Who's to say that these problems her mom has won't be a problem for the daughter in x number of years? I think what it boils down to is she's graduated (from high school), she's starting to think of the possibilities before the cold reality of life whomps her down a peg or two, and she's questioning her life, and her place in the world, and whether there is a corresponding spot for you. I think it's natural but from what you've described, it also sounds like she's putting you through the wringer.

I know you may care dearly about her, but cut her loose, man. She's not good for you. On top of the other stuff I've said, people change a LOT between the ages of 18-25, especially women. By the time you're 25, you're pretty set as far as your personality, motivation, and attitude about stuff. Who she is today isn't necessarily a reflection of who she'll be at 25- she could be better, or she could be worse.

[Brill Weave]

I've missed you Sath

[riddaraan]

I hate it when people say they've been looking for a job and can't find one. Typically that means that they apply one place a week, and then call it back the next week. Then, repeat the cycle starting the next week.

Honestly, even in this economy, there are jobs out there. If you really want, go get a job on the docks, pushing a broom, or shoveling shit in the dump if you really are desperate to keep her.

But truthfully? She's probably going to wind up going to college, having her first real lesbian experience, take nude pics of herself, have 4chan hack her photobucket, they'll get posted all online, she'll probably have about a dozen one night stands, but tell you she's never had one, she'll meet some really rich guys who have never known a day of hardship, and so much more. And with all these experiences, she's going to mature, in one way or another, and wind up growing up. Because that's life.

If you keep the attitude you have now - and seeing as you're older than her, I'd say you're losing the race - you're not going to mature, and wind up being stuck to your computer, in your mom's house, and lamenting for a girl you probably never had any REAL (see, "adult") connection to in the first place.

Get off your ass, if you really care. Get a job. If you care, you won't be limited in your search... you'd be out there, from 8am - 5pm every day looking. Walk into every establishment, knock on every door.

True love will stop at no ends. What will you do?

[Ohaigaiz]

Everyone saying man up and move on is right. It's pathetic.

I've been in the same situation, though, so here, take some of my experience.

She's over you. She doesn't care about you the same way anymore. This is what it takes for a self conscious girl who doesn't have many friends to break up with her boyfriend. She loves you, but not in the way needed to be with you again. Don't trust anything she says because it's just going to be something you want to hear. She doesn't know what the fuck she's going to do, so you saying 'don't do this' and her saying 'yes sir' is bullshit.

It's over. That's it, now you get to have a suck life for a little while. There's no way getting around it. For however long your life is going to suck so much cock. I'm going to guess you're one of those guys that when you're in love with a girl you aren't really interested in other ones. Well, that's probably how it's going to be. You'll think about her a lot, and be really emo about it for a while. Anticipate this and don't let it make you kill yourself.

That's about it. You'll be fine and over it soon enough. The key is, and I doubt you'll believe me, is to ignore her. Nonchalantly don't give a fuck. This makes EVERY girl no matter who the fuck it is kiss your feet. Funny, my dad actually told me this. I tried it for a few days and didn't really see any results so went back to acting how I was before to her. She just took advantage of me like she'll do to you. Eventually I realized loving a girl who is a douche is lol. Gather whatever self respect you have and just move on. I started to do other things than obsess over my ex girlfriend and things she might be doing. She saw I wasn't kissing her ass anymore and came to me. I talked to her fine but I just didn't really have the time so she'd always think I'm ignoring her. Complaining all the god damn time about how I ignore her. You just butter her up and play the fuck out of her. Don't give an excuse as to why you're not talking to her too.

Anyway, stop being a pussy, really. You'll regret pursuing this girl more because she'll just suck all the attention out of you while another guy is on the side.

I doubt you'll listen, though. You seem like a hard headed guy. Why even post this thread? Want some support bro? We all know you'll just go back to her over and over.

[Penthesilea]

I read half of it, then skimmed the rest. I was hoping towards the end, that Mandy and Jess would start hooking up as the major twist.

[Valor]

It's obvious the girl doesn't want to be with you any more man. She is making bad choices and doing things that piss you off on purpose and then comes running back when she is scared to be alone. You are both young and you shouldn't tie yourself down at this point in time anyways. She can't make up her mind what she wants anyways. Tell her it's over. Stop calling her. Do something else with your life and stop living it for this girl. Case closed.

[0ni0n]

The worst thing one could have ever done is to keep the high school relationship when you are both off to college. First, it won't last especially when you two aren't going to the same college. Second, there are so many other girls in college that you would almost feel stupid as soon as you know your way around. Third, you will change so much during the college years that you will find out you don't like her as much as you thought you did.

[Brill Weave]

Third, you will change so much during the college years that you will find out you don't like her as much as you thought you did.

Most people don't understand this. I really don't think alt is going to. And looking back, when you were in that situation right before college or in your freshman year at college, would you listen to what we're saying? I sure as shit know I didn't. It's a tough situation regardless and one where whatever the outcome is, isn't going to be the one you want. So do your own thing, go to school, get a job. Do something other than pine away for this girl who has already moved on.

[Ragnell]

Typical Bitch is bad and get some new puss.


Anyways, Is it me or did the thread title sound like someone was fat in this story, I came in here thinking it was a fat story :/

[MrW]

Get a job. Go to school. Find a new woman who really does care about you and then both can laugh about all this down the road. Most of us have been in this situation with the "first love" thing. It won't be easy but it'll pass.

[Diamicles]

Sounds to me like you're at the point in your relationship where you're starting to realize that your life goals don't sync up with hers. Better to end it before it turns out to be a divorce....always better to find someone who has similar visions and aspirations about life.

[lamp]

The best thing you can do is leave her, she doesnt want you, but wants you there incase shit falls through, you are nothing more than plan B to her.

Call her up, tell her your not gonna let yourself get hurt over her games, and her childish attitude towards your relationship (afterall she is a child) make it clear its done, over etc!

The next bit is the hard bit, get rid of everything that reminds you of her (within reason, dont torch your car or some shit) its ok to think about her, but its easier to think about other things without pictures of her all over your shit.
Your gonna cry, thats a given, if you have a good relationship with your mother exploit it, moms can be the most awesome people to confide in, especially when youve got your heart broken, dont be afraid to be a pussy, crying doesnt make you a fag.

Dont get into another relationship, after a serious relationship as long as yours you need your freedom, especially at your age, go out, live your life, call up your buddies, go do fun stuff. DO NOT STAY IN YOUR ROOM WITH THE CURTAINS CLOSED, SULKING N SHIT!

Its gonna be worse for you since you dont have a job i guess, becuase you dont have a place where you can spend most of your time to escape. So do chores for people, sort out the attic, paint the fence, mow the lawn, keep busy all while trying to find a job.

A Broken heart isnt forever if you dont surrender to it, take control of your emotions the best you can, and in the end you will be a stronger person for it, you'll be able to go into relationships with eyes open.

Good luck, i hope you take on board the advice myself and others have given and set yourself free.

[Shuemue]

The best thing for you to do is change the thread title to say ex-girlfriend. Fuck that bitch, she's lying. She just wants to sleep around. You're better off without her.

[Brill Weave]

The best thing for you to do is change the thread title to say ex-girlfriend. Fuck that bitch, she's lying. She just wants to sleep around. You're better off without her.

^The man does have a way with words.

[Shuemue]

^The man does have a way with words.

Don't worry buddy, I'll be sure to bitch at him and get multiple infractions if he reposts it ;P

[Tyche]

I met my wife when I was 16, she was 15. I think it'll be 9 years this august. We broke up once during that stint and I felt the same way you did. She was my first peice of ass, I loved her, yada yada ya. I told her "Please don't date other guys while we are taking a break..." yada yada ya. It was almost like your first post, verbatim, minus the crazy ass parents, getting a job, and the bullshit. I loved her and we were breaking up. She, of course, was my first love. She'll tell you that she won't fuck another guy, but guess what, she will. Don't get too bent out of shape over it, it's just sex. The best medicine for what you are going through is a lot of ass. Go and meet other girls and she'll be off your mind fairly quickly. It took me about a month to get over her, so don't think it's the end of the world. Go cry yourself to sleep for a week, then get over it and have sex with girls with little discretion. Personally, I'd fuck Mandy, she seems to be a whore, good place to start.

In my case, after our break and each of us having our fun for a little while, we got back together, got married, had kids, bought a house, and all is well and good. This is rare, very rare as pretty much everyone has said. I don't know why it worked out the way it did for us, it was really just kind of cooincidental. I wouldn't bank on this happening to you, because in almost all instances, it won't.

I strongly, strongly suggest you to stay the hell away from her (or any serious relationship) while going through college. There is nothing more shitty than going through college while in a serious relationship, especially if it's a long distance one. There is so much fun to be had in college, don't tie yourself down. At this point, it's really difficult for you to think that you can fall for someone else. You can, it's not that damn hard, play your cards right and she'll be an afterthought in a month.