Sexual Advice: Teaching girlfriend...

[Kuya]

So archi needs to feel like the boss to get off. Don't see how that's anything new for the average male.

[archibaldcrane]

Don't play dumb Kuya, I'm sure you know more about D/s than most people on here. Read what I wrote again, "feeling like the boss" isn't condusive to my orgasm.

[Kuya]

I'm not even being snarky. It's just a part of what gets some people off. Just like some people (a small amount of men i presume) get off on being submissive.

[archibaldcrane]

Being in control = turn on

Being able to orgasm = losing control

Two things, opposed to one another, for me, especially when receiving head. That's all I'm saying.

[Siniroth]

Being in control = turn on

Being able to orgasm = losing control

Two things, opposed to one another, for me, especially when receiving head. That's all I'm saying.

That sounds painfully annoying I'm really glad I'm not in that circumstance

[archibaldcrane]

That sounds painfully annoying I'm really glad I'm not in that circumstance

It's mainly an issue when I'm with a really submissive girl, but in that case I'm in heaven whether I come or not, so it's all good.

[archibaldcrane]

Also, where the fuck has the OP been the past two pages? I still don't know if he was even using lube for the handjobs.

[Lbelle]

Ok I got to page two and wanted to just...throw my computer against a wall. How the fuck can you be so bad at a handjob that you make the dude feel pain? I mean...it makes NO sense to me what she's doing. Is she squeezing it or pinching you or what? I just can't understand how the fuck you hurt someone with a handjob more than ONE time, before you figure out exactly what to do.

I can understand not giving a good blowjob, but I mean...hurting the guy doesn't make sense. On the same token with the hj stuff, just don't bite him and it shouldn't hurt.

You should tell her while she's getting used to it to just like/suck the head and rub the shaft in one motion until she gets better and can get more of it in her mouth. Watch porn/show her how you want it done. Or just dump her and find someone that knows what the fuck they're doing. Or literally fuck her and be on top and in control. How much can that hurt?

[Pringles]

Some women are naive with it. When I was 22 I dated a girl who had just turned 19. Girl was hornier than most guys I had ever known. 1st date, which was lunch, she asked me as I was dropping her off "Wanna come in so I can give you a blowjob?" I told her yea, and she tried for a minute and saw it wasn't working so I told her no worries. Her mom came home so I left.

Second date, she made me dinner at her place, and once again she was like "Can I give you a blowjob" Was a bit tipsy from wine so I told her sure since she assured me she read up on it since the last time, and once again she was bad so I told her to stop so she started to give me a handjob. 10 minutes in I realized it was hurting too much for a normal handjob, so I told her to stop. Go to the bathroom to take a piss, and my hand grazes myself and it hurt and I looked down, and the chick had taken off 3-4 layers of skin. Needless to say I told her I had to go and left. Got to a drugstore, bought some neosporin and put it on in their bathroom. Took 3 weeks for it to fully heal. Needless to say I stopped taking her calls or texts after she told 2 of her friends what she had done and it got back to me on my facebook wall from a friend of mine laughing. After a month, I finally "broke up?" with her on the phone over vent for linkshell members to hear. Shit was the funniest thing ever.

But back on topic, some just don't understand how to do it. You may be better off with coming out and telling her exactly how you feel on it, or she'll probably never change or try to change with it.

[Acturus]

That sounds painfully annoying I'm really glad I'm not in that circumstance

I am circumstance. It doesn't really make a difference in how it feels I think.

[Jerseyprophet]

Make her feel comfortable, and make it a sexy experience to show her what you like with your body language and words.

It doesnt have to be awkward or painful. This could be a very sexy, romantic, and postive experience for your relationship if you simply communicate.

Reinforce her, since she's trying to please YOU and say things like "god baby, that feels amazing" when shes doing something you like. When she isnt, move your body to the right position for her, and say something like "wait, I wanna see how this feels" so she doesnt think she did anything wrong, because she didnt.

Help her learn your body and help her feel comfortable with what shes doing for you.

[archibaldcrane]

Ok I got to page two and wanted to just...throw my computer against a wall. How the fuck can you be so bad at a handjob that you make the dude feel pain? I mean...it makes NO sense to me what she's doing. Is she squeezing it or pinching you or what? I just can't understand how the fuck you hurt someone with a handjob more than ONE time, before you figure out exactly what to do.

I can understand not giving a good blowjob, but I mean...hurting the guy doesn't make sense. On the same token with the hj stuff, just don't bite him and it shouldn't hurt.

You should tell her while she's getting used to it to just like/suck the head and rub the shaft in one motion until she gets better and can get more of it in her mouth. Watch porn/show her how you want it done. Or just dump her and find someone that knows what the fuck they're doing. Or literally fuck her and be on top and in control. How much can that hurt?

Enjoy this, because I had to sit in her driveway waiting for her to finish typing before we went to dinner tonight. Man she was enraged.

[simozene]

When I first met my girlfriend she gave ok blowjobs but nothing amazing. We talked about it a little bit because she became upset one time when I didn't reach orgasm... so I got her this: Amazon.com: Going Down: An Illustrated Guide to Giving Him the Best Blow Job of His Life: Nicci Talbot: Books

Let's just say it had a positive effect on our lives.

[Skjie]

Enjoy this, because I had to sit in her driveway waiting for her to finish typing before we went to dinner tonight. Man she was enraged.

But, did she use teeth?

[Killgannon]

OK so here's my story.

This was with my ex and we were both pretty inexperienced.. (we were each others firsts etc) but anyway, so she used teeth and wasnt that good at first and we talked about it and how we could fix it and how i could show her what i liked... so we're together one night in bed and whatever and i come up with this brilliant plan... you konw what is sorta like a penis but not really that girls have that they can actually feel? fingers right? yea so suck on her fingers, show her what you want her to do by doing it to her, dont use your teeth (duh) but try to imitate what you want done to her, its actually kinda hot... and should be hot to her too... make it hotter if you want by having her finger herself but that's what worked for me...

[Boyiee]

You know how I know you're gay? Cause you demonstrated how to give a man head.

[Yabby]

i never understood giving handjobs.... if i wanted one i would do it myself....

[Andarvi]

OK so here's my story.

This was with my ex and we were both pretty inexperienced.. (we were each others firsts etc) but anyway, so she used teeth and wasnt that good at first and we talked about it and how we could fix it and how i could show her what i liked... so we're together one night in bed and whatever and i come up with this brilliant plan... you konw what is sorta like a penis but not really that girls have that they can actually feel? fingers right? yea so suck on her fingers, show her what you want her to do by doing it to her, dont use your teeth (duh) but try to imitate what you want done to her, its actually kinda hot... and should be hot to her too... make it hotter if you want by having her finger herself but that's what worked for me...

where is elphaba when you need her.

[Kyreth]

Seriously how do you screw up a handjob that's like... impossible...

The same way guys fuck up fingering/masturbating a woman. Also, porno handjobs are a lesson in Doing It Wrong.

Seriously, my GF gives great head, but can't get me off with her hands to save her life. Boobie sex FTW.

[Siniroth]

The same way guys fuck up fingering/masturbating a woman. Also, porno handjobs are a lesson in Doing It Wrong.

Seriously, my GF gives great head, but can't get me off with her hands to save her life. Boobie sex FTW.

Again, I fail to see the difficulty, both are astoundingly simple