Sex problem (serious and humiliating question)

[Linliel]

Amput... no actually, you really need to relax Maybe take a day or a long evening out to just play for a while, don't go straight for the money but just tease each other and get more relaxed about things.

Good luck!

[orson]

I once read in a Playboy that if you masturbate too much or too vigorously you'll have a hard time getting off just from vaginal sex. As some other people said you might just want to lay off the porn + spank time and save it for your GF. Some chicks just aren't as tight as others even if they haven't had a shitload of partners it's something that you may have to get used to. Like most people say though if it's not something physical or desensitization then it's probably mental and you'll just make it worse worrying about.

P.S. Also you're not just some freaky fetishist are you?

[Brill Weave]

It's mental Rata. Nothing major to be concerned with. Just relax and stop thinking about it. The more you think about it the more you're going to worry about it. The more you worry about it the more it's going to happen. Relax and enjoy the ride and pay attention to her more instead of all the random thoughts that are fluttering around in your brain.

[Siniroth]

Stop being a selfish prick, keep pumping till she can't walk... she will thank you for it.

Finish the job on your own time.

Trust me.

This, I have your 'problem' but choose to see it as nothing but a good thing

[Faris]

I had this before.

what i did: stopped jerking off, and exercised more, ate healthy. came like a mofo.

and set the mood before you have sex, dont just pull down your pants everytime you're alone.

and also it happened to me again after this; but thats just because the girl didnt interest me.

oh yeah, happened also this third time, cus the girl was too demanding in bed, I didnt enjoy it. so my dick punished both of us. basically, the sex wasnt good.

so it could be one of those

[Shinryuu]

It's mental, and it can be sort of a problem if you make it a problem. There's also the girlfriend getting more and more insecure because she thinks she fails in bed. Solution:

YouTube - Bobby McFerrin - Don't Worry Be Happy

[kuronosan]

oh yeah, happened also this third time, cus the girl was too demanding in bed, I didnt enjoy it. so my dick punished both of us. basically, the sex wasnt good.

so it could be one of those

This too. Sometimes women want it a particular way and forget you're only human and have limits. You might be the kind of guy who can only bend one way and have to build slowly in order to stay hard and she might keep asking you to do it fast and then will get pissy when you're softening.

Sexual chemistry is very important. Both people involved have to just relax and enjoy it for what it is instead of focusing so much on the end result.

[SubzeroDiabolos]

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Yay for not being alone, that happened to me before and it was the biggest WTFISGOINGON of my life.

I also came to realise later bitch was ugly.

Fais toi en pas avec sa, ya du monde sa terre dans une situation ben plus humiliante que toi, moi y compris.

[Nekonaruto]

Fais toi en pas avec sa, ya du monde sa terre dans une situation ben plus humiliante que toi, moi y compris.

Exact. Mieux vaut pas gicler du tout avec une meuf que de gicler plein avec sa main.

[Ratatapa]

Ya i'm sure it was just me that wasn't relaxed, that girl is sexy enough that it's impossible she cant make me come

anyway gonna see her again Wednesday so gonna hope

[Max™]

I can attest that regular masturbation and regular sex do not seem to be the cause of this problem from my experience, course... she does kegels and wonderful dirty talk though... but I've tried wanking off beforehand just to last without having to slow down or pull out every few minutes. Still have to close my eyes or stare at the wall instead of bouncing tits or ass sometimes to avoid popping like a teenage boy on his first time.


What are you thinking about when you're doing it? Is she enjoying it? Are you just masturbating with her cooze, or actually engaged in the act of fucking her til she cums too much to walk?

[Bipolargod]

I'd seek consultation from your PCP(Primary Care Physician), I'm sure it's not erectile dysfunction because you're staying erect during intercourse, if he has nothing valuable to tell you I'd seek attention from your urologist and maybe it's just your prostate acting up. All in all I hope it works out for you and that maybe it just -is- stress and that you'll overcome it sometime soon, take it easy and good luck.

[kuronosan]

It's either stress or prostate cancer and he doesn't seem to have cancer. Shit.

[Ratatapa]

Like i said i can Jack off just fine when im alone, and she is too hot (imo) to not be able to come

I do admit taht i was thinking of only coming to make her happy (which is wrong) so i'll just fix that

[Mizango]

Like a boss.

[SubzeroDiabolos]

Boss boss boss boss boss

[Nystul]

I've dealt with it too and to be honest, the best sex my wife and I have had has been when I'm feeling cocky and have a bit of an "I'm in it for me" attitude. She can basically make herself get off whenever (at least most of the time) so it really comes down to me. The more she's into it the more I'm into it the more she's into it. If I get too focused on her- "is this good? does she want me to do that? should I do this?" etc then I can stay hard and she can get off but I won't. If I worry about me we both end up happy- plus she likes it more because I tend to be more aggressive and kids, 95% of chicks like a guy to be sensitive and caring everywhere BUT in the sack. Almost all girl like to be spanked like a naughty bitch and those that say they don't probably just feel guilty for liking it.

Moral of the story- take care of you and everything will work out.

[Max™]

Yeah, the filthy talk she tosses at me... well, go to a porn site and look for a vid of Kelsey Michaels and listen to her... pretty similar stuff, with the sweet innocent "mmm, ow, it hurts" stuff mixed in.

I'm rarely able to last through a few minutes of that.

[Cephius]

I've dealt with it too and to be honest, the best sex my wife and I have had has been when I'm feeling cocky and have a bit of an "I'm in it for me" attitude. She can basically make herself get off whenever (at least most of the time) so it really comes down to me. The more she's into it the more I'm into it the more she's into it. If I get too focused on her- "is this good? does she want me to do that? should I do this?" etc then I can stay hard and she can get off but I won't. If I worry about me we both end up happy- plus she likes it more because I tend to be more aggressive and kids, 95% of chicks like a guy to be sensitive and caring everywhere BUT in the sack. Almost all girl like to be spanked like a naughty bitch and those that say they don't probably just feel guilty for liking it.

Moral of the story- take care of you and everything will work out.

Girls still wanna be pleased though, it sounds a bit dangerous to promote an "I'm in this for me" attitude. It's good for the OPs situation to build some confidence, but don't neglect the lady in the sack Extend the foreplay at least, they like that shit.

[antihero]

lick her asshole and she won't care how long you last (or don't last)