broken families

[Nevex]

Personally fit in (1). Just myself and my parents who are not divorced, no siblings.

Looking at this poll, I wonder why people still get married. I really don't see the pros outweighting the cons and going through a divorce is a major nuisance for both parents and children.

[Wolfknight]

Personally fit in (1). Just myself and my parents who are not divorced, no siblings.

Looking at this poll, I wonder why people still get married. I really don't see the pros outweighting the cons and going through a divorce is a major nuisance for both parents and children.

I am 1 too, and just a guess tradition, benefits medical/etc, and taxes breaks?

[Mr. Flippy]

eh a broken family here so option 2. my dad had a son and a daughter by a previous marriage before he was married to my mother. they were together i think like 10 years before they split. they had me then my younger brother. my mother remarried a few years after the divorce and that didn't last long until she met my current step dad they have been together for 9 years so far. i never really connected with my dad cause he was always out on the rode driving a tractor trailer cross country. until he remarried and got custody of my younger brother and me. my step mother has 3 kids 2 boys and a girl all older than me. weird thing is tho my step brothers have the same names as me and my younger brother so it gets kinda confusing around Christmas. weirder yet all my siblings have j names, it nuts

[Faris]

Personally fit in (1). Just myself and my parents who are not divorced, no siblings.

Looking at this poll, I wonder why people still get married. I really don't see the pros outweighting the cons and going through a divorce is a major nuisance for both parents and children.

cus this poll provides the ultimate statistical information regarding marriage right?

[thestalkmore]

cus this poll provides the ultimate statistical information regarding marriage right?

Yes, yes it does.

[Senoska]

Was taken away from my dad by CPS when I was like 12.. Long story.

[Max™]

do families need to be nerfed if they are broken?

/thread-ish

As for me, uh... psycho dad abusing my mom as long as I can remember, eventually sisters and I went to live with family/fosters for a period, dad killed himself, family eventually got reunited.

[Faris]

was alcohol/drugs involved? in general for the people who got option 2
just curious

[Stilzkin]

parents divorced when I was 10-11, somewhere around there, both now remarried.

[Vigilia]

Parents met after school, married and are still happily married after 33 years and 4 kids. Same for both sets of my grandparents, long happy marriages- dad's parents are still living on their own in adorable harmony because they always forget to turn up their hearing devices. I seriously thought that only happens in sitcoms until I went to visit them this summer. I have several couples in close family (my aunts) who have never married but who have lived with the same man for 20-30 years and raised families as if they were married. I'm not married nor do I ever plan to marry, it's an unnecessary piece of paper and I'm not religious so never felt the need to validate my relationship before some random god. Plus where I come from there are no financial advantages for being married vs unmarried. Only thing that pisses me off is that English language lacks a word for an unmarried couple living together (with kids) like for example Swedish has "sambo" and Finnish has "avopari". I hate calling my other half my "partner", makes us sound like solicitors and it's far too serious to call him a "boyfriend". -_-

[Tezz]

#2: Mother, Father, Me, Sixter, Half-Sister.
Father, Mother & Me are all 30 years apart exactly.

They've been divorced since i was born, yet still live together.

[Howard Roark]

my parents: divorced
their parents: divorced
their siblings: divorced

I'm gunning to break this pattern

[Kryssan]

My dad's on his fourth marriage, my mom's gone through two. Me and my brother were the products of the second marriage for both. I haven't really spoken to my father in a while so I don't know how well the fourth one's going. The third lasted about a year. Fourth wife has been around for about a year now too, I guess. My mom and dad were married for 10 years, and spent about that much time divorcing each other afterwards (and really the only reason they finally did was so that they could both start seeing other people since they couldn't both be in the same room for very long).



I can still remember my mom getting me and my brother together after school before the Labor Day holiday and driving us to our grandfather's instead of home. T'was interesting times. Lots of threats and some violence all around. Both of my mom's marriages seemed to have been to people that ire quickly. Amusingly enough alcohol was only a problem in her first marriage... my father doesn't seem to require it to be the way he is. Things seem to be better now, at least if they're near each other they can be civil, but I suppose that could be because they see each other like once every 5 years or so, heh.



I also find it interesting age wasn't included in here. My mom and dad are both in their fifties now, and their marriage together was in their thirties.

[gandorf]

#2

Parents divorced when I was 10 or 11. Both parents are dating someone now but both don't plan on ever getting married again. On my dads side his parents are still married. On my moms side her mother was married twice and both husbands passed away. My great grandparents that passed away about three years ago were married till the end.

Non of my siblings are married and only one of them have a kid. I'm not married and don't plan to marry unless its necessary to whom I choose to spend my life with.

[Cantih]

#2
Bastard, raised only by mother.
Nothing "broken" involved, no tragedy.

[Shalyn]

Was there for about an hour before I realised that the problem hadn't been me, it was just he's a colossal douche. Clean break after that, no more anti-depressents and I've been doing fine. I'm english if that effects the study your doing if this is just for american families.

It takes too long to realize this, huh? I know how it is. It seems like so simple a thing, and it is totally a 'Good Will Hunting' moment. I got the chance to tell my 'father' what a douche he is and I've been great ever since ^.^

So yeah, numero 2, both parents remarried. My mum once and is still with him after uhm.. 17 years? And the other guy twice last I heard, but divorced every time.

[Ferien]

(2) Parents separated when I was 5 or so, officially divorced a few years later. Mom had a live-in boyfriend for most of my childhood, dad remarried 10 years ago. Never any problems with any of them, and my parents are still friendly. Only wish I didn't lose touch with mom's ex-boyfriend when he left.

@Firas: Nope, just personal differences. Two completely different personalities.

[Nevex]

Parents met after school, married and are still happily married after 33 years and 4 kids. Same for both sets of my grandparents, long happy marriages- dad's parents are still living on their own in adorable harmony because they always forget to turn up their hearing devices. I seriously thought that only happens in sitcoms until I went to visit them this summer. I have several couples in close family (my aunts) who have never married but who have lived with the same man for 20-30 years and raised families as if they were married. I'm not married nor do I ever plan to marry, it's an unnecessary piece of paper and I'm not religious so never felt the need to validate my relationship before some random god. Plus where I come from there are no financial advantages for being married vs unmarried. Only thing that pisses me off is that English language lacks a word for an unmarried couple living together (with kids) like for example Swedish has "sambo" and Finnish has "avopari". I hate calling my other half my "partner", makes us sound like solicitors and it's far too serious to call him a "boyfriend". -_-

I believe it's the same where I live (Italy), there are NO reasons whatsoever to get married here.
On the other side, divorce rate is extremely low, pretty much because most people are strictly catoholic here and see that as a sort of sin.
As consequence, there are a lot of unhappy families, which range from "not so bad" to disastrous.

A lot of parents won't accept the fact that their children are not going to get a proper marriage and sorta push them in making that choice, and after that the same thing happens about the "not wanting to have children" thing.

I personally see that as completely useless and unecessary too.

Kinda surprised on how little control over parents' divorce people have on this topic. Unless you really wanted to get rid of one or both your parents you really never tried to stop them?
I for one know that if my parents were to divorce I wouldn't allow that (and yes I'm capable of that), simply because I have too much pride for letting either of them run away and leave me behind. It's not very hard for a grown boy/girl, when he/she starts having a strong influence over parents' actions, to force them acting in a certain way after all. Not sure if anybody else feels this way.

[Electro]

My parent's have been married 25+ years. Still going. They are living it up. They have 3 to 4 getaway houses where they both go to spend "time together." They had 2 kids, my brother and I. I am currently engaged. My fiancee's parents have been married for 25+ years as well. Both sets of our great grandparents were married until their death. My grandmother on dad's side is still married to my grandpa. My grandmother on my mom's side has been remarried 2-3 times. My fiancees grandparents on here dads side have been remarried 3-5 times. Her mom's side have been remarried once.

[Obev]

Parents divorced when I was about thirteen. I guess I'm middle-middle-class. Of my friends and acquaintances I'm in the minority.