Woman problems BG Help!

[EckoGecko]

Figure why make a new thread so I will ask another question. Long distance relationships, has it worked for anyone or there are benefits/risks?

I can only think of the obvious cons...

[Edgie]

Aw man Ive had more of these than id like to admit, The short of it is simple, long distance doesnt work in the end. One of you will want to see each other more often, and either your work, school or just everything will suffer for it.
Think about it, you have this nice job but you wanna see this girl, dam you only get 2 weeks vacation a year... wtf... anyway it just doesnt work out, you either move close to her or she moves to you.

[Wakabo]

Well think it would work for the best if she moved in with you? Or not worth it still in the end.

[kuronosan]

Ask yourself the following questions:

a) Have we ever met in person before?

b) Have we been talking/meeting for more than a year?

c) Has it been long enough to where if she moved in we could stand living with each other?

d) Do we have enough in common to where I'm sure I couldn't find anything like her here?


If you can't answer yes to at least three of those questions, it's probably not a good idea.

[Wakabo]

Only part I can't answer is 1.

[Wakabo]

Ok, I know I am back peddling. Also I am a lazy ass for not starting a new thread.

The other day while I was working the said girl in the original post was at my work and offered to buy me dinner after I get off. I accepted, free good food is always accepted and wanted to hear her reason for showing up.

Went and had sushi at my favorite place and started talking about work and then eventually she was talking about this relationship she is in. Saying she is trying hard for it but doesn't think the guy is interested because she wont have sex. Well I told her some guys are like that and she should just move on. That's all I said about that.

After we finished, took her to her car but I don't know what was going through my mind or hers but ended up kissing. Kissing led to a blow job which I will not deny, it was fucking good. After that was finished we both said goodnight and went our separate ways. This happened about a week ago and haven't talked to her since. It sort of bothered me that it all happened and were not even dating but part of me is thinking possible person to hook up with on those lonely nights now? Haven't been able to decide so asking the BG guru's of dating/love/sex help.

[Mertron]

Long distance relationships with no prior in-person connection to the person are basically a terrible idea, and I speak from experience. It's different if you knew the person beforehand.

As for your ex who gave you head, you said you hadn't thought about her in a while before above posted blowjob. I would keep clear of her, if she wants to hang out fine, but leave it at that for now, as long as she is offering no strings attached free head. Just don't be dumb and start thinking about her again, keep looking for something else that will actually work.

Edit: To clarify, dont go looking for her or calling her just because you're horny. If she comes looking for you and you have nothing going on, why not? But keep looking for someone you want to be with and keep her to the side. I'm sure she's looking for someone else too, just don't get suckered in again.

[Ferien]

don't get suckered in again.

ahem.

[Vandalhart]

If she blew you after that short of a time, I'm sure she'd have no problems blowin other guys too. I wouldn't read too much into it.

[Abandon]

that short a time? this is his ex, broham. Free head is free head. Don't actively pursue more, but if she offers to come over and hang out, why not get what you can then?

[Vandalhart]

I dunno. It seems weird to me that she'd just go out for a casual diner and blow a dude. I realise there's history there, perhaps she's not getting the real picture.

I'm never been in this sort of situation I guess, so that could be part of it.

[Abandon]

fuck the situation. gromwup poor, and you'll come to appreciate a free meal. A blowjob is just icing at this point.

[Klutz]

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Ok, I know I am back peddling. Also I am a lazy ass for not starting a new thread.

The other day while I was working the said girl in the original post was at my work and offered to buy me dinner after I get off. I accepted, free good food is always accepted and wanted to hear her reason for showing up.

Went and had sushi at my favorite place and started talking about work and then eventually she was talking about this relationship she is in. Saying she is trying hard for it but doesn't think the guy is interested because she wont have sex. Well I told her some guys are like that and she should just move on. That's all I said about that.

After we finished, took her to her car but I don't know what was going through my mind or hers but ended up kissing. Kissing led to a blow job which I will not deny, it was fucking good. After that was finished we both said goodnight and went our separate ways. This happened about a week ago and haven't talked to her since. It sort of bothered me that it all happened and were not even dating but part of me is thinking possible person to hook up with on those lonely nights now? Haven't been able to decide so asking the BG guru's of dating/love/sex help.

Well honestly, I've done this before. Not gonna sugar coat it. Guy A was less hotter than Guy B. Guy B ended up not working out. Guy A = guaranteed sex, not having to work for it..

I realize you didn't have sex but she's not entirely committed unless she wants to talk about rebuilding something. Everyone here can say "Get rid of her, etc", but it's easier said than done, we all know that.

Sleepless nights, staying up until 5 AM watching TV making yourself literally exhausted to even sleep.
Checking your phone every 5 minutes, hoping inside you got a text/call.
Etc.
Etc.

In short: First impression, she just wants to get laid. Wow women wanting to get laid, and using men for it? Who would've thought?

So I hope if she's gonna draw you in, it's for a good reason, and not said reason above.

[Vandalhart]

fuck the situation. gromwup poor, and you'll come to appreciate a free meal. A blowjob is just icing at this point.

huh?
gromwup poor?

grow up more?

ohh grow up poor?

gotcha.

[Wakabo]

that short a time? this is his ex, broham. Free head is free head. Don't actively pursue more, but if she offers to come over and hang out, why not get what you can then?

This is what I was thinking. I'm still going out on my own doing what I want and hanging out with the chicks I want to and doing what I want. A free meal is a free meal. Then a free head was more than I was hoping for but not relying on it every time I want something sexual.

Question is now, what if she tries to pursue a relationship again. Also what she was saying about the person she is seeing now is they try to get into her pants and she just tells him no. He usually gets pissed and takes a nap. I just laughed but she keeps thinking it wasn't going to work out.

Been a few chicks that I been seeing but nothing special with them yet, just been keeping my options open. Dunno maybe she noticed what she is missing out on

[Vandalhart]

I'm not as seasoned as some others around here, but I would think just act normal and be friends. If she wants to try again that's up to you. If it's anything serious then it'll work itself out eventually. Take the time you have to get some more experience under your belt just in case something like that happens. Just try to have a mind set of "Whatever happens will happen".

People have to have the opportunity to grow. Younger couples that get together and marry typically end up splitting up because they don't facilitate or foresee this being an issue.

You seem to know what you're doing anyways.

[willriker]

Question is now, what if she tries to pursue a relationship again. Also what she was saying about the person she is seeing now is they try to get into her pants and she just tells him no. He usually gets pissed and takes a nap. I just laughed but she keeps thinking it wasn't going to work out.

She bought you a free meal, and gave you a BJ. Think about what she might have done for other guys she knows. granted, some things are off the table with her, but you should still think about that. Personally, i would be worried about getting back together with her.


If you have second thoughts about a woman who can just go and give an ex a bj because she isnt happy with her current relationship... dont go back into the relationship. I know that i would be thinking about if she would do the same to me if we were having an arguement.

If your fine with it, or honestly think that she wouldnt, and she pursues you. why not.

[Cleverness]

A little freedom is a good thing, if people have been together awhile sometimes they just need to get away. Generally happens a lot for people for meet up in High School like you 2 did.

Honestly just keep doing what you're doing in going out and having fun, let her do whatever and if she calls you again then whatever, free food/blowjob is never bad. I'm assuming you're enjoying yourself some since it's prolly not something you did often when going out with her for so long. If you are, don't bother trying to make the first move in trying to get back together with her or even contacting her unless you two remained good friends and just want to talk, keep having your fun and freedom and let her experience the freedom to date men that she wanted when she broke up with you. She brings up relationships again just laugh it off like you did before.

[Kyo]

Just use her for side tail till you find a main squeeze.