Ok, so if I toss snow on a fire, you're telling me it will instantly melt the snow, and the fire will be unhampered? You live in a different world than I.
Your lighting and earth thing, I already said. Yes, earth disperses it, and electrifies anything touching the ground in a decently large radius. The -exact- same thing happens in water. The 2 collide, lightning disperses, electrifies things nearby, and then is gone. Lightning is a fleeting thing, I guess by your logic every element should be strong vs lightning.
Wind and Ice collide, please tell me what happens? The exact same thing as wind and earth.
You fail at reading, I even acknowledged this. My point is that most relationships (including air and fire) are 2 ways, not 1 way.
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