Pointers for a virgin?

[Elesirdur]

In all honesty, if you just want to get this guy laid then set him up with a call girl. Find a classy agency, ask the madame or master of the agency questions about STI testing to see if they keep their employees safe and such, and make an in-call (ie. at the agency's brothel) appointment.

However, some people are just late bloomers or even just not interested in sex, regardless of their gender or the gender/orientation of a potential partner. But if this guy is bemoaning his virginity and/or has a spank bank of 100 GB of porn on his computer then he just needs to get his rocks off. Professionals are there for no strings attached services, and so long as he's not so freaked out it aught to be a positive experience that will give him the confidence to have better sex in the future with ladies of his choosing.

[Warudo Ecksu]

Women like fresh meat, so if he tells a chick hes a virg before they do the deed, I'm sure she'd be more than willing to guide him. Just don't put crazy pressure on this guy cuz then you're going to freak him out & potentially cause him to not perform well when he finally bones a chick.

In all seriousness you shouldn't be rushing this guy to stick it in a chick any way. Bitches are crazy.

[Seanr]

9. Duration, therw's a number of methods for not popping your load early. Some people recommend of nasty shit, baseball, Price Charlies missus'. I'm a big fan of rolling my eyes upwards like I'm trying to see the top of my skull. Say what you will, do what you will, no lady likes a man to pop his load early.

Don't do that... the bolded part. Do this enough, and you may start to associate it with sex, and possibly, eventually be turned on by it. It is a fine line to walk.

Sometimes its best to just change positions. Or my personal favorite... I pull out and switch to cunnilinigus (Eatin her out), they wont know "why" you pulled out, but they won't be mad that you started doing that, unless you suck at it. Once you've composed yourself down there (or have brought her to orgasm/cum), you can switch back. If you have brought them to the point of orgasm by eating them out... and you come in with some Penis as well... Do you know what that does?!

[Jodwahh]

That why I'm a fan of checking out the inside of my skull lol.

[BadKarma]

In all honesty, if you just want to get this guy laid then set him up with a call girl. Find a classy agency, ask the madame or master of the agency questions about STI testing to see if they keep their employees safe and such, and make an in-call (ie. at the agency's brothel) appointment.

I'm interested. Set me up with an example

[Cream Soda]

it aught to be a positive experience that will give him the confidence to have better sex in the future with ladies of his choosing.

I never got how this is supposed to work. That shit to me seems as if it'd have the opposite effect. Somewhere down the line of "man, the only girl that would ever sleep with me is one I had to pay money for" and fuck up someone's confidence rather than build it.

[Atreides]

1. Get him to sort his pubes before he gets in there. I've yet to know of a single man that likes an untamed bush, be a gentleman and return the motherfucking favour. Going into battle prepared is half the battle won.

I can't even begin to explain just how important this is. Trim or shave or whatever but a huge manbush is only sexy if your dick is more than 12 inches long

[Elesirdur]

I'm interested. Set me up with an example

Okay, here's an escort agency I actually visited in my town after I broke up with my girlfriend of three years.

http://www.bcdarlings.com/su_portfolios.htm

We had essentially been in a chaste relationship for the last three months, and even though we had to break up, I really needed to fuck someone. I ended up seeing this girl about a week later and had one hell of a fun time.

And honestly, after only being with one woman, who I loved dearly, for three years, I needed something new. The lack of any commitment and knowledge that I was there for my own pleasure gave me back some confidence I sorely needed. Considering I've got three girls on the go right now, I think it helped give me a bit of a boost and make peace with my loss.

It's absolutely natural to be scared your first time, and I think it's wonderful if you can share that experience with someone you really care for. However, if the aim is to just go out and have sex for the first time, being in a situation where you know there won't be any emotional complications can be really freeing (I think).

I'll back my own comments by saying that I lost my virginity at 18 to an older girl who didn't really like me, but saw me as a novelty fuck masquerading as a relationship. That ended very badly for me, being hurt because I didn't understand the kind of open relationships you get into when you're older. If I had the ability to go back and change my past to anything I wanted, I would end up losing my virginity to someone I really cared about, and who truly returned my feelings. That being said, I think if I was presented with the opportunity to go fuck a sex worker for my first time, I think I would have taken it and hopefully looked back on it as a formative experience.

[Celeste]

Kill yourself! lololol!

[Elesirdur]

I never got how this is supposed to work. That shit to me seems as if it'd have the opposite effect. Somewhere down the line of "man, the only girl that would ever sleep with me is one I had to pay money for" and fuck up someone's confidence rather than build it.

Well I'm a real pragmatist and can look at seeing a sex worker as a financial trade for a service. Couple that with an ability to enjoy sex as just sex that doesn't require me to really like the person I'm with to still have fun (though it's always 1000x better when both partners care about each other), and it's a mutually beneficial situation; I get to fuck without any commitment and she gets to earn a living. Though please don't interpret that as me seeing sex workers as charity cases, but if that's how you pay the bills then that's the way it is.

Essentially, it's all about the context you put the experience in. If you look back on it like you said Cream Soda then yeah, that's depressing as fuck. However, if one can think about it like "all right, lost my virginity to a smoking hot babe and I don't have to worry about any complications, and I have some fucking clue about actual fucking" then I think you can do alright by it.

[Atreides]

I never got how this is supposed to work. That shit to me seems as if it'd have the opposite effect. Somewhere down the line of "man, the only girl that would ever sleep with me is one I had to pay money for" and fuck up someone's confidence rather than build it.

your problem is you're putting the pussy on a pedestal

[Kyo]

Lock this guy in a room with Atredies and a wii.

[Atreides]

is he hot?

[Elesirdur]

Word. If I can give any advice to young guys it would be to not warp your mind by putting women on unrealistic levels in your mind. Of course you should cherish and love the ones you care about, and treat everyone with dignity and respect, but doing as Atreides says will likely lead to bad experiences. If you work women and sex up in your mind as this something that's conceptually larger than life, then you'll be nervous and uncomfortable when you actually confront it. And you'll probably bust your load in 30s flat haha (been there, so depressing afterwords)

Just relax, take it easy as best you can, and enjoy the time you can spend with a woman as what it is - two adults enjoying their company and maybe enjoying the physical pleasures they can partake in. Leave the Romantic-era goddess notions in poetry and books.

[Yuri-G]

Nice gets their attention, mean sets the hook.

I think this may be one of the smartest things I've ever heard.

[Zalius]

the word confidence doesnt fucking mean anything. stop saying it. the actual effect of confidence is the process of BEING experienced, of having seen the situation enough times to be able to predict the outcome.

your goal isn't to look confident, your goal is to know what the fuck to do. youre never going to know what to do if you dont practice or get any experience in. you have to start and understand the mechanics of the process. it isn't failing, its learning.

the confidence isn't whats attractive, its what the confidence implies.

i have no sympathy for anyone that never realizes this for themselves.

[AoE]

Watch Cesar Milan. You'd be suprised how much that shit applies to a lot of girls. lol

[SephYuyX]

It's why theyre called bitches.

[BadKarma]

Also, make fucking eye contact, if your looking at a girl, and she looks at you. Don't avert your gaze, meet hers. If you break the eye thing, it shows her your a bitch, basically.

[Zalius]

depends on what you're talking about. it's more about establishing a comfortable medium of behaviors than establishing eye contact. its just a nervous habit to move your eyes and thats more of a subconscious indication that you are nervous, thus inexperienced or worried. knowing what you are doing is much more attractive than doing things on accident unless you're really really fuckin charming