how long do you wait before you call?

[Yuri-G]

re: dating, of course.

I've heard about the 3-day rule, but someone told me the other day that 2 days is better. one day being too soon, and 3 days being an obvious attempt at playing games. 2 days shows interest without being clingy.

so, BG, how long before you call? or if you normally get called, what's the perfect length of time for someone to wait before calling you?

on a related note, I once got a call from a guy I met on the bus before I even got home. needless to say, we didn't end up going out.

[Weltall]

Just text and see if they text back. If they don't, they were just being nice. I would wait 1-2 days to text.

[Ryko]

^

[tyven]

i generally wait until the next weekend

[Drex]

call them immediately after the date and gush about how much fun you had and how you can't wait to meet their parents

[Cephius]

Really? Fuck that waiting game shit, I say. If I'm interested in seeing someone why would I want to wait around for some unwritten deadline? I'd call as soon as possible. If your first reaction to me calling is "OMG TOO SOON HE MUST BE CLINGY" I probably don't want to date you anyway.

[Atreides]

Really? Fuck that waiting game shit, I say. If I'm interested in seeing someone why would I want to wait around for some unwritten deadline? I'd call as soon as possible. If your first reaction to me calling is "OMG TOO SOON HE MUST BE CLINGY" I probably don't want to date you anyway.

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basically: the sooner you tell me you want to eat my cock, the better

[Yuri-G]

hmm a much wider range of opinions than I expected... hadn't thought of texting for some reason. maybe I'll do that.

he already emailed me the day after though, so I know he's interested. might as well just ask him if he's free tonight.

this

basically: the sooner you tell me you want to eat my cock, the better

oh pshaw, it's a given that we all want to eat your cock. as long as you're coming white now.

[Lucavi]

Agreed with the others. There is no set waiting period. If you are interested, and know how to convey your interest without coming off sounding creepy, do that shit rght off the back.

Waiting games are for people that like to feel like relationships are some cat and mouse game, and that there is some kind of established formula that must be adhered to.

A relationship is a relationship. Whatever works, works.

[Cephius]

hmm a much wider range of opinions than I expected... hadn't thought of texting for some reason. maybe I'll do that.

he already emailed me the day after though, so I know he's interested. might as well just ask him if he's free tonight.



oh pshaw, it's a given that we all want to eat your cock. as long as you're coming white now.

Personal opinion but texting/emails/AIM/etc just shows you're afraid of rejection and want to communicate in a non-personal way. I think you should just talk to him, you'll find out if the relationship has a future a lot faster and save both of you a lot of time dancing around the topic.

I realize it isn't everyone's cup of tea, but I'm a straightforward guy and hate the pre-dating garbage.

[Lyn]

I always felt like if they took too long to get in touch with me they weren't interested. When they do call after a week or so, I feel like they were just bored or I was their last resort. I don't know if it's just me, but when I get a call - no matter how quick it is, I'm super happy and don't even think about that sort of stuff.

[Xiona]

uh, don't text or call until you have something to do in mind. there is no 'days to wait rule' if youre being sincere.

for example; if im going to be doing something the day after i meet someone, i will try and get ahold of them to see if they want to go with me. i feel the worst thing anyone can do is just text/call to text/call rather than actually having an activity prepared so you arent playing the 'lets make a general date to meet at a general place' game.

you can goto said general place (diner, coffee, bar etc) after you have done the previously planned.

[Klutz]

Personally if a guy called me the day after a date I wouldn't mind. Don't expect me to be all over you though, just make small talk and show you're easy to talk to.

Maybe I'll suck your dick next time I see you.

[Aerides]

If she's into you, you can't call too soon.
If she's not, doesn't matter anyway.

If she's into you and you wait a few days, she will think you are not as into her and she misread you, and now she has replayed the date in her head 12 times and asked all her friends why you didn't call and they have now all told her what a douche you are for playing games.

[Yuri-G]

Personal opinion but texting/emails/AIM/etc just shows you're afraid of rejection and want to communicate in a non-personal way. I think you should just talk to him, you'll find out if the relationship has a future a lot faster and save both of you a lot of time dancing around the topic.

I realize it isn't everyone's cup of tea, but I'm a straightforward guy and hate the pre-dating garbage.

yeah I hate the pre-dating shit too. we're definitely not dating yet, but I think there's potential.

I always overthink this stuff and, ironically, end up ruining it when it would've been fine if I just would've acted normal.

[Atreides]

just act like you normally would, if you have to trick someone into liking you by acting like a different person, then they're not right for you.

unless you just want to use them for sex, in which case all bets are off

[Yuri-G]

uh, don't text or call until you have something to do in mind. there is no 'days to wait rule' if youre being sincere.

for example; if im going to be doing something the day after i meet someone, i will try and get ahold of them to see if they want to go with me. i feel the worst thing anyone can do is just text/call to text/call rather than actually having an activity prepared so you arent playing the 'lets make a general date to meet at a general place' game.

you can goto said general place (diner, coffee, bar etc) after you have done the previously planned.

does cuddling on the couch and playing video games count, if that's honestly what you're both into?

I figure we'll do that tonight and if it goes well (this is only the second time we'll be hanging out), I'll pop the dinner question.

[Yuri-G]

just act like you normally would, if you have to trick someone into liking you by acting like a different person, then they're not right for you.

unless you just want to use them for sex, in which case all bets are off

oh god no. I like his personality more than I do his looks, though they're not exactly lacking.

yeah you're right. I don't know why I get so worked up. I need to go meditate or drop a few valium or something.

kidding. mostly.

[Tyche]

Do gay people and strait people adhere to the same social conventions of dating? Maybe I'm just not privy to the gay culture, but don't you guys live off of one night stands and thump like wild rabbits?

[antihero]

don't call at all, homosexuality is a disease, find a sexual reorientation support group