how long do you wait before you call?

[Sanoske]

We wait 3 days to call, because Jesus wants us to wait 3 days. True story.

[Talus]

Hah.. lol Barney's awesome. New HIMYM tonight too.

OP: call when you want. I think next day or two days later is ideal. Right after is kind of weird, imo, especially considering it's someone you just met. Here's that conversation:

"Well, I'm physically attracted to you enough that I want to get to know you better. Dinner?"
"OKAY!"

[BadKarma]

Don't call. Throw a brick through her window and burn your name into her lawn

[Kuya]

Personal opinion but texting/emails/AIM/etc just shows you're afraid of rejection and want to communicate in a non-personal way. I think you should just talk to him, you'll find out if the relationship has a future a lot faster and save both of you a lot of time dancing around the topic.

I realize it isn't everyone's cup of tea, but I'm a straightforward guy and hate the pre-dating garbage.

I only read a bit of the thread, but i just wanted to say that if you ever decide to try guys, i'm all ears!

[Nyx]

Don't call. Throw a brick through her window and burn your name into her lawn

This is my preferred method of communication as well.

[Blarg]

Carving your name into their now dead ex's chest and having it show up on the news is a great way to send her a message without actually giving her a call.

[Cyn]

Girls always call me the next day so it's not an issue.

Yeah.

[Redshift]

Calling too soon is worse than calling too late. Calling soon shows you have nothing else to do in your life; you're boring, you're life isn't busy (no direction), too interested = no challenge on their part, clingy, your life isn't all that interesting because you don't have other plans, etc. Your actions always speak louder than your words. Ideal scenario, which doesn't happen often, she calls you, so next time you see her the ball is in your court and the night goes where ever you want it to go.

Yeah, it's all games/tests in a sense. But not playing along limits your choices, not theirs.

[Maguspk]

Calling too soon is worse than calling too late. Calling soon shows you have nothing else to do in your life; you're boring, you're life isn't busy (no direction), too interested = no challenge on their part, clingy, your life isn't all that interesting because you don't have other plans, etc. Your actions always speak louder than your words. Ideal scenario, which doesn't happen often, she calls you, so next time you see her the ball is in your court and the night goes where ever you want it to go.

Yeah, it's all games/tests in a sense. But not playing along limits your choices, not theirs.

This is so wrong. I feel sorry for people who think like this, no girl actually cares about how soon a guy calls, it's what you do on that call that fucking matters. I don't know what the fuck for gay guys, but I am assuming it's pretty much the same since we're all people.

In fact, it's actually better to call sooner than later especially if you just met the person. No girl answers their phone to a guy they met 3 nights ago and gave their number to on a whim. If you have any shot of using the number they gave you, it's making sure she remembers who you are and following up with some good shit. No half-decent looking girl remembers some guy she met 3 nights ago, especially not when she only gave you her number just to get you to leave her alone.

[Qalbert]

shoulda held up your name and number at the superbowl, phone be ringin off the hook

[Ivve]

Calling too soon is worse than calling too late. Calling soon shows you have nothing else to do in your life; you're boring, you're life isn't busy (no direction), too interested = no challenge on their part, clingy, your life isn't all that interesting because you don't have other plans, etc. Your actions always speak louder than your words. Ideal scenario, which doesn't happen often, she calls you, so next time you see her the ball is in your court and the night goes where ever you want it to go.

Yeah, it's all games/tests in a sense. But not playing along limits your choices, not theirs.

Bullshit. I don't even know where to start. Everyone is different, so trying to apply a standard set of rules to your dates is fucking dumb from the beginning. Some people will think it's sweet if you call them before they're even out of your line of sight and make up some cute shit about going on another date. Some people will think that's creepyweird. Some people want to be pursued, so they want the enthusiasm of someone calling them back immediately. Some people don't like that and they want things to be more casual. Just don't be fucking retarded and take your cues from how they acted during whatever kind of interaction you had previously.

And at least in my opinion, calling too soon and potentially coming off a little eager is infinitely more forgivable than calling me way too fucking late like I was a last resort or you didn't bother to think about it until much later.

[Titanss]

if he/she is really into you and you them, a text after the date or the following day always works, it shows you really enjoyed the time together and they dig that shit

[Ksandra]

I approve of Yuri's new boytoy btw so (b'')b we must all help him keep this one. Very nice on the eyes.

[Mertron]

swingers

on topic, the next day is fine, the same day is kinda creepy. but have a plan in mind of what you want to do.

[Lysithea]

I only read a bit of the thread, but i just wanted to say that if you ever decide to try guys, i'm all ears!

holy crap your sig looks like my psych teacher...

[Koul]

yeah, I don't think there's a set of rules.

me and my berrfriend went out for brunch for our first meeting and while there we made plans later that night to see a movie. followed by Gilato afterwards. the movie settled the mood and we bullshitted afterwards. worked great.

like others have said if you wanna hang out or get to know the person more just ask, it's stupid to wait. if the person is looking for something serious and also interested, I don't see what the issue would be.

shopping seems a little too much to me though. I would just feel the need/want to impress them with purchases or something. might come off a bit too forced.

[Despain]

@OP:

There has been great advice presented in this thread already. Honestly, the best time to call is whenever you feel comfortable. Don't ever send text messages, its stupid. Its impossible to tell how another person is reacting on the other line unless you can hear them speak. i.e, they send you a text message saying "omg you're so fucking awesome omgomg <3" when in reality they're thinking "wish this person would stop talking to me".

Girl I just started dating recently. After our first day, I called her the following afternoon. Asked her out bowling (I hate bowling, but its a great way to spend time together, no joke) and we've been fine ever since. She also plays Modern Warfare, which is a huge + (she plays on xbox though, and I on PS3 ;.

My advice just call him whenever you feel comfortable. Although I'm sure by now you've already responded to him.

[isladar]

It was mentioned previously, but for fucks' sake, have something to suggest when you do contact them. Nothing pisses me off more than getting called (even by a friend) just to hear "Hey, what're you doin'", as if all that was keeping me from starting an all-day extravaganza of activities was a phone call. If you would like to hang out, offer something to do. Even if it's "would you like to come over and play video games and eat snacks", it's better than some kind of vague 'hang out'.

Inviting someone along to do something shows you're interested in spending time with them, have some initiative, and were thinking about them. It's not an imposition to suggest things to people, to state your preferences, or have an opinion. Mealy-mouthed vague bullshit says you're more interested in avoiding the inherent risk of interaction than giving something a try.

[Despain]

I love girls who call me and have absolutely nothing to talk about, and expect me to stay on the line for more than 5 minutes.

"Hey, whats up?"
".. nothing. Chillin'."
"OH thats cool... yeah school was pretty boring...."
"Sucks. I gotta go though, something came up."
"I just called you."
"I'll call you back." (Which I usually don't do.)

[isladar]

On the other side of that, there's the dudes who are so blown away with whatever it is they think they're feeling that they expect me to be impressed by that. So imagine the above phone call, except reversed.

Honestly, there's no magic BOYS ARE LIKE THIS GIRLS ARE LIKE THAT, if you're a passive-aggressive bitch it is independent of the position you piss in.