Online Dating - Anyone tried/willing to share experiences and/or tips?

[Demosthenes]

75% on both of you. No love.

[richardd]

thats pretty cool arch

im kinda afraid to try those sites man. my online charm is crap compared to my RL charm. its hard to make a woman feel safe/comfortable and vulnerable when i cant type out deoxyribonucleic acid w/o having to google it 1st. plus its easier for me to make em laugh when its one on one. not so much pixel on pixel lol

but if i could, i would man. get it how you live. that shit is tight. i know like 4 ppl who've gotten MARRIED and live happier lives than most ppl because it started on interwebs.

[archibaldcrane]

its hard to make a woman feel safe/comfortable and vulnerable when i cant type out deoxyribonucleic acid w/o having to google it 1st.

Naw Rich, you got it all wrong - internet is key to charm. You have time to react, you can research and make obscure references to the things girls like and it'll seem like they "really understand you!" A girl messaged me from San Dimas and I told her I've heard really good things about the high school football in that region.

(she didn't get it)

So I sent her a youtube link...with a SMILEY FACE.

Bitches love it.

Spoiler: show

and then you can shoot your deoxyribonucleic acid on their face. feels good man.

[Linliel]

Naw Rich, you got it all wrong - internet is key to charm. You have time to react, you can research and make obscure references to the things girls like and it'll seem like they "really understand you!" A girl messaged me from San Dimas and I told her I've heard really good things about the high school football in that region.

you scheming sonofa... and here I was thinking it was all natural and spontaneous!!!

[Max™]

San Dimas rules!

http://www.costumzee.com/users/Lana417-3162-full.gif

[Lucki]

http://www.gk2gk.com/

[Cephius]

you scheming sonofa... and here I was thinking it was all natural and spontaneous!!!

You'd still give him a beej for his trouble, don't lie

[Linliel]

You'd still give him a beej for his trouble, don't lie

oh no I'm a sweet innocent girl, I have no idea what you're talking about. I believe I'd go out for coffee with him though *nod*

[Max™]

http://www.crunchgear.com/wp-content...hot_coffee.jpg

[Plow]

So I was bored as fuck last night and saw the stuff about people getting rejected from eharmony due to admitting they like sex, so I went and filled the shit out, didn't get rejected.


However, I put that I don't care about smoking, don't care about kids, and want a "max" drinking level of a few times a year.

I got 7 matches.

6 of them have kids (5 of those 6 were 24 or younger).

Every single one of the 7 has the max smoking you can pick, and the max amount of drinking I picked.

[The Stig]

hey Plow was that free? I got back from work not too long ago, am too lazy to look around, but will do so sometime in the next 1-2 months ! Although I like how I am learning that it seems to be somewhat (or heavily) religious, I'll see how I feel when the time comes, if I feel more serious I'll give it a spin.

Also, archibaldcrane thanks for providing some sample exchanges. Was nice to get some insight into how it can work.

[Plow]

hey Plow was that free? I got back from work not too long ago, am too lazy to look around, but will do so sometime in the next 1-2 months ! Although I like how I am learning that it seems to be somewhat (or heavily) religious, I'll see how I feel when the time comes, if I feel more serious I'll give it a spin.

It was free, but I can't see their pictures, can't see much of their info, can't contact them, and as is apparently important judging by a previous post here, I can't see if any of them are actual paid people that I would be able to communicate with if I *did* pay for it.

I've never actually considered this stuff before, honestly I pay so little attention to the social networking stuff that I was under the impression that this kind of thing still had somewhat of a stigma of desperation/pathetic-ness to it. However since I don't drink, and I live in Kansas, my "new people" opportunities are a bit excessively limited. I think I'll try a free registration on that geek 2 geek place, see if any thing interesting comes from there, I'll let ya know.

As far as the religion stuff, I selected "other" for every option on myself, and put completely don't care about matches' religious views.

[Galois]

I tired the whole online dating thing(eHarmony and match.com) when I moved to a new area after college, just to try it. Nothing came out of match.com, but I did meet a few ok girls on eHarmony. Nothing got too serious, but they were nice. I also met a real psycho, so your mileage may vary.

I actually ended up meeting my wife on FFXI, so I can vouch for that, but I actually think that online dating complements other methods fairly well.

[Plow]

Well fuck. I did a geek2geek one. It was really basic compared to eharmony, and I filled it out like... really loosely, all kinds of options open.


I got 1 match. A 32 year old Christian conservative fat chick with kids in Iowa.


However, the "You might also be interested in" has provided some interesting stuff.


Doesn't fit me personally but one chick was pretty decent and this was her "my match" paragraph:

Have you created a Zombie Plan? Do you often quote Joss Whedon? Do you think Portal is the best game ever? Then you may be the guy for me. I'm looking for a nice guy with similar interests, who I can have great geek related conversations and who isn't afraid to strap on a pack and climb a mountain with me from time to time.

Guessing a lot of people here would be interested in that...

[Kirb]

Met my girlfriend of now 2 years online, but not through a dating site, just through a workshop discussion on conceptart.org. We were friends for a year before we met and really hit it off.

I don't really trust online dating services any more than I do speed-dating or any of that stuff. Mingling, meeting people and making friends works pretty much the same way online as it does in RL.

[BadKarma]

Plentyoffish will get you laid. But thats about it.

[Darus Grey]

I hate to admit it, but I had more success on FFXI than any of these dating sites, FFXI girls were just weird, girls I've met on Okcupid and PlentyofFish has gotten me stalked twice and a share of batshit insane girls, which wasn't different than FFXI except they know where I live/work and can find me.

Which sucks because I really prefer online dating, because I can avoid mentioning for awhile that I'm a wealthy doctorate holder... If you've never been in that position you just see the $$$ signs in their eyes when girls talk to you(like seriously, I can be fat wearing shorts and a stained tshirt and it's like they can SMELL it...it's the most bizarre thing), I'd like to be more than some girl's step ladder into high(er) society. Which is why for the most part I just don't date anymore, can't win.

[Pirian]

If you're serious then you're looking in the wrong places for women. If you aren't serious then you got me good. But seriously, there are a lot of educated women out there that waited on getting married because they wanted to get their life established first. I was talking to this guy I know who's in his mid-30's (financially he's more than rather well off), and he informed me that the men to women ratio at his age/"class" is very skewed in his favor.

[Syntex]

Well I can share with you my experiences and you can take that for what its worth.

I tried Eharmony for 6+ months but what I ended up getting is a lotta dull people. Every profile said the same thing in one way or another "family and my friends are important, I like reading books, I like doing (insert something slitghtly offbeat with your freetime like frisbee/bowling/horsebackriding ect) and enjoy it a lot, I also like painting ect ect" is about how 95% of Eharmony is with their paragraphs but maybe its because of the way I answered my questions I don't know. Either case I never even got to the dating part from that site because people either would take 2+ months to reply or just ignore me outright.

A friend recommended okcupid.com and in about a month I found my current GF who I have been dating for 5months now and still going good. To me okcupid has people who are a little more out there but still sane and not all of them are looking for a one night stand if your serious.

Most if not all of the people on eharmony don't know what the hell a ps3 is let alone play them, my current GF is a gamer much like myself and thats something I will never find there.

To each their own I suppose, my best friend is getting married with someone he met on eharmony so it works for some.

[Mansin]

I met my girlfriend on chatroulette.

Real talk.