What makes a date a date?

[Senoska]

So I'm fighting with a friend of mine.

Long story short: She went out with a guy that she hadn't seen in awhile and he took her to a movie, paid for it, and then took her to dinner, and also paid for it. She thinks it was "Just a friend paying for her" but I think it's pretty obvious this was a date to him.

At what point does it stop becoming going out with a friend and start becoming a date?

[wagon]

Yes, he paid for everything, it's a date. Did she put out? She should, otherwise she should at least pay her share or not agree to the "outing" in the first place.

Edit, unless they agreed that she will pay for everything the next time they go out, since that's what I do with my buddies.

[Rhyis.]

When a penis is involved.

[Syntex]

Tell your friend people don't buy her shit because they want to be nice, there is always another motive hence its a date.

[Headspace]

If she didn't want the guy to get the wrong idea, she'd try to pay her end of it. Date locations, date payment, date.

But I'm definitely not an expert on this...

[wagon]

It was one on one and he paid for everything. Case closed, it was a date.

[Mayareira]

So I'm fighting with a friend of mine.

Long story short: She went out with a guy that she hadn't seen in awhile and he took her to a movie, paid for it, and then took her to dinner, and also paid for it. She thinks it was "Just a friend paying for her" but I think it's pretty obvious this was a date to him.

At what point does it stop becoming going out with a friend and start becoming a date?

From an objective point of view, at the bolded part.

From my non-objective "in a long distance relationship" point of view, the moment she considers going out with another guy that is not a gay friend or something. The moment the idea starts wandering in her brain lobes.

[Kiro]

Roofies.

[Weiing]

I think it's about the frame of mind. I never really thought of anything as a "date", but rather, hanging out with someone/my boyfriend/etc.

I don't think anyone paying for anyone else should be the sole basis of making something a "date". Then again, I've always been the one (the girl) to pay for everything, and it always weirds me out, to this day, when my now-fiancee pays for some things (such as dinner or a movie).

I think a date is only really a date if both agree that it's one. Such as, "Hey, want to go on a date with me?" or "tonight's our date night" or whatever.

As a caveat, I've always been one to shy away from social norms and lame labels like that, and so perhaps I usually see things as "hanging out" or "going out" but not necessarily a "date". That being said, sometimes, deep inside me, I want to go on a date, which I usually envision as dressing nicer than usual and going somewhere/doing something that would rarely be done otherwise.

tl;dr: What constitutes a date is subjective. To make it an official date, just ask/talk to the other person to confirm it's a date.

[Omnipotent]

The movie made it a date, just a dinner is a good "How's life haven't seen you in a while" get together.

[Jefe]

It'd make it a date if their intentions were to get romantically involved. Not if he paid for dinner or a bag of popcorn, son.

[Judai]

depends on how he asked.

You wanna hang out? - chilin
Do you want to see a movie and have dinner with me? - date

Pretty much all my chick friends make me pay if we are just chillin one on one, I hate girls sometimes.

[Mayareira]

Last time I asked someone to "hang out" ended with me kissing her passionately on ferry, do some licking job on top of a romantic tower and ended with a dinner + more kiss/suck/lick action.

But it was my last day in the city so I had to go all out of attack.

[Byrd]

He thinks it's a date. She doesn't. If she doesn't want the guy to get the wrong idea, she needs to offer to pay her share. Perhaps even insist.

The only exception I could see given the circumstances outlined is that she is notoriously broke (or cheap) and it is generally known that if you go out and do anything with her, you're footing the entire bill. I've had friends like that, but not for very long.

[ZarakiKujata]

Pretty much all my chick friends make me pay if we are just chillin one on one, I hate girls sometimes.

You need to stop putting the pussy on a pedestal.

[wagon]

depends on how he asked.

You wanna hang out? - chilin
Do you want to see a movie and have dinner with me? - date

Pretty much all my chick friends make me pay if we are just chillin one on one, I hate girls sometimes.

dude, you got rip off

[Mayareira]

You need to stop putting the pussy on a pedestal.

But then he'll be a Beta male.

[wagon]

But then he'll be a Beta male.

Nope, saying yes indiscriminately to all girls demand will make you a beta male

[ZarakiKujata]

But then he'll be a Beta male.

Son he's a beta now if he's paying for dinner/movies and not getting his.

[Akiyama]

Was gonna say it was probably a date if she fucked him, but.. eh. All these other reasonings seem nicer.