Am I a douche?

[Lucavi]

Stick to pedo, Seno; you're not really good with women, judging from all that you've posted.

She's got a rich sucker that's paying for everything, and as long as she doesn't commit, she can keep eating high on the hog while fucking whoever she wants and living however she likes.

Why can't I get myself in situations like that?

But seriously, I can't tell you anything more than what everyone else already has. You spoiled this chick, and she knows it, and what's worse is that you expected her to actually be honest when you're spoiling her rotten. Not gonna happen - you can't control her through cash and gifts and kind words. You can't grab a chick's heart through being the better man and hoping, while spoiling her rotten.

But hopefully you already know that by now.

[Yabby]

I've never understood the getting over faze most people go through. I've only had one girl cheat on me and the second i found out it was over. It makes me look at the person in a completely different light. Even hot girls i'm interested in, if we are out on a date and she is treated our waiter/ess like shit that date is over in my head.

[Serif]

You live in Michigan? Never knew that.
At any rate Isladar is right. You brought this upon yourself. An open relationship where you don't care who she fucks as long as she tells you? That's basically saying "you're too good for me but as long as I can say with have something that looks like a relationship, I'll be happy."
If this relationship was open did you hook up with anyone else?

If he says no, holy crap this is like that episode in the last season of House.

[Tyrath]

Oh and one more thing. I'm sure you've probably figured it out now. But in the future never be so nice to any girl, no matter how much you like her, where you're paying her rent, taking her out to dinner every night, paying for everything. It's just not worth it. Money will not win you a girl's heart, she'll just see you as someone who can pay all her bills.

[Lucavi]

I've never understood the getting over faze most people go through. I've only had one girl cheat on me and the second i found out it was over. It makes me look at the person in a completely different light. Even hot girls i'm interested in, if we are out on a date and she is treated our waiter/ess like shit that date is over in my head.

Because some people are stupid enough to believe that they can "will" themselves into the situation they want to be in. You can't "will" anything in this world other than yourself. If something isn't working, it isn't working. You move on. You can't "will" some chick to be on your dick simply because you buy her shit, or talk nice to her, or ARE nice to her. This isn't some Disney made-for-tv movie where good deeds = getting the chick in the end.

I've had to learn that the hard way, but I learned young, and I'm a much better person as a result.

[Bingbong]

tl;dr.

The thing is this... if you have to ask if you are a douche, chances are, the answer somewhere along the line of questions is 'yes'.

[Neoscrilla]

You live in Michigan? Never knew that. I also live in here/there. May be I need to be your wingman slap some sense into you...
At any rate Isladar is right. You brought this upon yourself. An open relationship where you don't care who she fucks as long as she tells you? That's basically saying "you're too good for me but as long as I can say with have something that looks like a relationship, I'll be happy."
If this relationship was open did you hook up with anyone else?

Hit me up, I'll come wingman too. Homeboy needs all the help he can get. Gonna have to calibrate his Ho-dar for him.

[Jefe]

Are we talking about a PS3 60 gig model or the shittyass slims? If I were the guy I'd probably be banging her and trying to get some trophy. Later on I'd convince her to blame it all on you, how it was your fault; THEN you'd end up apologizing and ultimately back together. All this whilst I bang her behind your back and getting more of your shit whilst I smoke the weed she stole from you.

Move on ;o

[Tymon]

I have the benefit of having virtually no life expenses right now (I board with my mom while going to community college on a paid scholarship)

I pay for gas and car insurance. That's it.

I get pissed off if I spend $20 on dinner. If I do something like that, I usually eat ramen for a day to offset the cost. I don't even really need to do this. I could be spending $15-20 every night on dinner and still either break even or come out with a profit.

Call me a stingy guy if you want but I just can't possibly fathom the idea of going neck deep in debt by spending ridiculous amounts of money on dinners and hotel rooms and the like.. I don't care how much I love a girl; if she loves me back, which is the only reason I would even pursue a relationship in the first place, she isn't going to have me go in debt for her.

Would I go in debt to save her life? Of course, most would. Would I go in debt just to give her a sirloin steak and a comfy bed to fuck on every night? Yeah.. no thanks.

[Lucienne]

Chances are good I'm going to be that guy that wants nothing to do with people for awhile. I invested ALL of my trust in her. I even believed her at first about not going to this guys house until my mind told me how it was.

Don't feel sorry for yourself. It's a really dumb approach. Learn and move on.

[Senoska]

You live in Michigan? Never knew that. I also live in here/there. May be I need to be your wingman slap some sense into you...
At any rate Isladar is right. You brought this upon yourself. An open relationship where you don't care who she fucks as long as she tells you? That's basically saying "you're too good for me but as long as I can say with have something that looks like a relationship, I'll be happy."
If this relationship was open did you hook up with anyone else?

Nah, I stuck to myself. I hung out with girls but never fucked any of them. I'm pretty dedicated to who I'm with. I understand what everyone is saying and I really do appreciate the advice everyone is giving..

For the record, I live in Novi at the moment. Shit, if you're near here, lemme know.

[Sepukku]

$200+ bar/motel-or-hotel evenings?

Go to the state store.
Buy $30 of booze.
Have the sex in the bedroom.
???
Profit.

Seriously though, burn all bridges with her. Either (A) try to use the fucking shit out of her, (B) be as offensive and disrespectful as you legally can, or (C) forget her, but with (C) you won't be able to take out your frustrations that you're gonna have when you go from mopey to "omg, she IS a bitch" and get the rage all of us have from past similar learning experiences that some of us are exhibiting in our posts.

My 2.5 year exclusive gf is being stressed from money issues and whatever else she claims and wants us to go on a break and just be friends til she can get everything in order and Im worried (even more so, after reading this and hearing your story and remembering in greater detail a past experience of myself) shes trying to sucker me in to coming in and fixing everything with monetary assistance. I don't think she realizes how short this friend leash is - how small the time window is before I start talking to other girls. In the meantime, I won't stay over, she's not getting a dime from me, Im in no way helping her except driving her to work if she needs a ride. Thats it, and the clock is ticking.

In the meantime, I'm mentally loading this attitude in my head:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dyYWCUUnJU0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dyYWCUUnJU0

[xerodok]

Come to Dearborn, you can play my PS3.

Spoiler: show

as long as you are my gil farming slave come FFXIV ps3 release

As for the whole situation, there's not much you can do as mentioned throughout the thread. You lived it, learn from it, forget it, don't let it happen again.

[Meresgi]

http://www.bay-of-fundie.com/img/200...ark-douche.jpg


Seriously though, you need to stop being such a push over. Cause if you act the same way in your 20s, chicks are going to run you over.

This^

Learn your lesson now or get fucked later on hardcore, I know from experience man. Don't be a pushover.

[Senoska]

I'mma burn that shit to a CD and listen to it on my way to pick this stuff up. Just reading this thread has me feeling pretty good, to be honest. I'm kind of proud of myself for some reason. I dont really miss her now that I think about it. All I could think about was all the good stuff she's done for me. She made me some pillow cases when she learned to sew, and bought me some shoes, but at the same time she was doing this shit. I don't miss it. I feel kind of empowered, to be honest. I hold the cards now. :]

edit: I'm in my 20's, for the record, and so is she.

[Neoscrilla]

All I could think about was all the good stuff she's done for me. She made me some pillow cases when she learned to sew, and bought me some shoes, but at the same time she was doing this shit.

Houston, we have a problem.....

$5,000 pillow cases and shoes? Come ON man. I'm on your side here, lol. We need to get you a hooker so you can get a nut off and forget about this bitch once and for all. I worry for you my friend, lol.

[shindycat]

I'mma burn that shit to a CD and listen to it on my way to pick this stuff up. Just reading this thread has me feeling pretty good, to be honest. I'm kind of proud of myself for some reason. I dont really miss her now that I think about it. All I could think about was all the good stuff she's done for me. She made me some pillow cases when she learned to sew, and bought me some shoes, but at the same time she was doing this shit. I don't miss it. I feel kind of empowered, to be honest. I hold the cards now. :]

edit: I'm in my 20's, for the record, and so is she.

yay!!!!

[Lucavi]

Here's what you need to remember:

1) There are trillions of women out there, and quite a few of them are actually pretty cool chicks, so there's no need to throw everything at the first one your heart goes pitter patter at.

2) There's nothing wrong with being chick-less for extended periods of time. Yes, pussy looks good, tastes good, and feels good, but pussy, and the woman attached to that pussy, can seriously set you down the wrong direction.

Take that "good feeling" you feel about yourself and get comfortable not wanting or needing a chick for awhile. It'll do you a world of good.

[chiyio]

. I don't miss it. I feel kind of empowered, to be honest. I hold the cards now.

I don't think you're going to get over this quite as easily as that, but best of luck.

Better to have this all blow up now than in a year or two when you're in serious financial trouble.

This girl obviously cared nothing about your future, much less a future together with you.

I have the PERFECT picture for this thread, but it's at home, I'll post it later.

[Serif]

There's nothing wrong with being chick-less for extended periods of time. Yes, pussy looks good, tastes good, and feels good, but pussy, and the woman attached to that pussy, can seriously set you down the wrong direction.

And we all praise to God and say amen