Broke up with my bitch fiancee.

[thetruepandagod]

To be fair custody courts heavily favor women to the point of being ludicrous.

superior asian:

[Raytheon]

Right, so if I get the kids, how does that put me in the sucker zone?

I think you're missing the overall picture, which is that she's not getting anything on me that I'm not willingly letting her have. If I wanted her out of the house and wanted custody of the kids, it wouldn't take much, if any, effort on my part. Please trust me on this.

[Raytheon]

I've heard the courts are rediculous like that. I doubt it ever comes to that though, she wants me in the kids life no matter what, and I wouldn't ever take the kids away from their mom, (Unless she just started really fucking up, drugs, questionable lifestyle, etc.,) so it's not really a big concern at this point.

[Cream Soda]

You're paying for her to live there. That man gonna come over and long dick her in your bed. That's what puts you in the sucker zone.

"not willingly let her have"

Exactly my point. You letting her have anything at all is sucker zone.


"If I wanted her out of the house and wanted custody of the kids, it wouldn't take much, if any, effort on my part. Please trust me on this. "

The fact that you already haven't started this process, sucker zone.

You say you can do this at any point and time and you haven't. Sucker zone.

[Komm Suesser Tod]

I'm packing my shit tonight and goin' to a friends for awhile. I've gotten several offers of places to stay so I'm not worried about that. My main concern is being able to see my girls on more than just weekends. (By the way, about the whole custody thing, there's no way in fucktown she'd get custody over me. She's got bipolar disorder, no income, and an unstable history.)

Stop deluding yourself with the notion that you'll win custody easily. My brother is going through something similar to you, and his wife actually just picked up her shit and left her kids, and he's still having trouble getting custody. The law favors the mother, this will not be easy. Get a lawyer, fast. You weren't even married, she could just claim you weren't the father and put that much more distance between you and getting any real custody of your children. Also, you apparently have to travel for work, and work in a dangerous field, so that also isn't in your favor.

tldr: Her being the mother has the potential to effectively nullify any shortcomings as a caregiver. You'll basically be on even footing when determining custody.

[thetruepandagod]

(Unless she just started really fucking up, drugs, questionable lifestyle, etc.,) so it's not really a big concern at this point.

If she isn't doing these things than you wouldn't win custody fyi.

[Cream Soda]

Also, if you think she's getting nothing out of this, you're crazy. Especially if she hasn't been working a majority of the marriage. She'll get spousal support for X amount of time on top of child support, easily.

[Raytheon]

She abuses pills (percocets). She's had a long history, documented history, of drug abuse, self-destructive behavior, you name it. She has SMI paperwork (Seriously Mentally Ill), she just won a court case with the state for disability for her bipolar disorder. The only thing keeping this chick from totally fucking her life up is the kids. That may work in her favor, I don't know.

Me, I'm a military vet, now a defense contractor with good income, the house is in my name, I own my vehicles, I have no debts, and the worst thing on my record is a speeding ticket which may not even be in the system anymore. There's nothing on me that could be viewed negatively in a court case for custody.

Additionally, her parents live across the street from my parents, and we live about a block away from them. The kids could stay there while I'm in Saudi no problem. Lot's of options. I don't want it to go to that, but she's gonna have to make some pretty strong cases as to her mental instability, lack of financial income, lack of residence, etc., As far as I'm concerned, odds are in my favor.

[Raytheon]

Also, if you think she's getting nothing out of this, you're crazy. Especially if she hasn't been working a majority of the marriage. She'll get spousal support for X amount of time on top of child support, easily.

She only gets child support of we take it to court and she get's full custody. She doesn't get spousal support because we were never married, and there's no common law in Arizona. And even if there was, her home of record is at her parents, so there's nothing that shows that we are in a recognizable relationship in regards to legalities.

She gets what I give her. All there is to it.

[shindycat]

I think talking to a lawyer wouldn't be a bad idea, that way you will know your rights, and be ready IF something happens. Custody battles SUCK, but not everyone has them.. it shouldn't be an issue if you and her are mature, and both want what is best for your daughters. If its not an issue, don't make it one...but always be prepared.

[Raytheon]

I think talking to a lawyer wouldn't be a bad idea, that way you will know your rights, and be ready IF something happens. Custody battles SUCK, but not everyone has them.. it shouldn't be an issue if you and her are mature, and both want what is best for your daughters. If its not an issue, don't make it one...but always be prepared.

This.

Thanks

[Tyche]

Just as an FYI, keep the kids overnight as much as possible while you're going through a divorce. Document every time they spend the night, and how long. If she's stupid and not talked to a lawyer, just tell her you want the kids to sleep over as much as possible (the first thing her lawyer will advise is to keep the kids overnight as much as possible). When going through a custody battle, it's imperative to prove that the kids are staying with you. It doesn't matter if she has the kids for 18 hours a day, if they tuck in and sleep at your house, you get credit for that day.

I have no idea how deporting for lengthy periods of time is going to effect the custody battle, but I'd be pretty certain it won't help.

Edit: Forgot you weren't married

[antihero]

why do you even want your kids lol, should have birth control'd

[Cephius]

Bitch is ugly as fuck and I like asians. Mega cute kids, though. Good luck getting your life back in order and finding a woman who isn't an ugly mooch.

[The_OG_Nelta]

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[Milkster]

Took me about 2 minutes to skim this thread and I am disappointed.
Also how far apart did you take the Air Force picture and the drunk guitar picture?

[shindycat]

This.

Thanks

You are sooo welcome :D

[Viq]

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more like 싼다라 amirite?

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Sorry, that was really corny

[Komm Suesser Tod]

This.

Thanks

Think about this, you weren't married, and you have no evidence of infidelity or other cause for the split, so if it does come down to a custody battle, it could be nasty for you.

[jmc]

Think about this, you weren't married, and you have no evidence of infidelity or other cause for the split, so if it does come down to a custody battle, it could be nasty for you.

Yea....this right here.

In all honesty, being bi-polar means jack shit to most judges. As majority believe the parent will be fine on medication and treatment, and of course said parent will always take his/her medication daily for the kids!