Are you a Positive or Negative person?

[SephYuyX]

Similar to the "is the glass half empty or half full?" question.. do you primarily think of the negative things, or the positive things in situations?


Examples.. in past relationships, do you tend to think of all the bad things and always beat yourself up, or do you think of all the good things that happened, despite how it ended it?

When you let your daughter go out on a date, do you think about all the bad things that could go wrong? she could get raped, or she might get into a car wreck, she might get pregnant, etc; or do you view it positively, such as she’s finally growing up, she’s becoming a real strong woman now who can make her own decisions.

When your wife goes out to go pick something up in a bad snow storm, do you think about her getting in a car crash and dying, will someone run into her? Or do you think about how you know she’s a good defensive driver and that she will be alright.

When your dad is working with a table saw, do you think about how something could happen and he could get his fingers cut off? or do you know that he’s been doing it for years and he does everything safely and correct.

When you’re out of town or go away for a few hours and no one will be watching the house, do you worry about it being robbed, or something happening and the house would burn down? Or do reassure yourself and realize that you take every precaution necessary and trust that everything will be ok.


Does this mean that you view life negatively? I don’t think so, for some reason I’ve kind of realized that in these similar situations, I’m always of thinking about the worst outcome that could happen and have been thinking that way for a long time. This doesn’t mean I wake up in the morning and bitch to myself "I hate life, I don’t want to go to work, oh woe is me" etc. It's just that I feel worried for others, that I have some sort of responsibility to make sure everyone is ok, and that everything goes ok, and always looking to improve things by looking at the bad and making sure it doesn’t happen again.


What is your mind set? Positive or Negative? And why?

[Obev]

Negative. I therefore spend most of my life pleasantly surprised that things turned out okay.

[Mizango]

Mine is mainly Positive other than when I am in obviously bad mood. I tend to be positive due to self confidence and making it through certain situations that I have throughout my life. I mean if I "had" to pick up and move to a totally foreign country or step outside of my comfort zone I have no doubt that I would do fine and make it. Don't ask me why but it is just the way I always have thought.

At 17 I enrolled to an out of state University and came home to "visit" only on holidays (and that was only because I was asked so frequently). When I was done with school I moved to St. Louis, Missouri, in which I had absolutely no family, friends and was armed only with a potential job, $270.00 in my wallet and an apartment for 3 months. Yet I was calm and had absolutely no fear of failing or longing for home, but then again I am just odd like that. I am the epitome of a rolling stone lol.

I just believe that if you don't believe in yourself or in your abilities how can you BS someone into believing in you and your ideas that someone else may deem as "stupid"? I dunno, just me. I am and always have been self sufficient, maybe it has come from that? I honestly feel I could lose everything I own materialistically speaking of course, and I would some how get back up and back on my feet in no time. Foolish thinking? I'm sure you're right and I wont argue that, but I honestly believe and feel that way .

/shrug

[Exoduso]

Negative. I therefore spend most of my life pleasantly surprised that things turned out okay.

I'm on the same boat heh.

[Falisa]

I like to think of myself as a positive. As to the why, I don't really have an answer for that. I guess it's just how I grew up.

[Septimus]

I was very young when I started saying "Expect the worst from people and you will never be disappointed."

I believe that I was born cynical.

[Kiro]

Negative - When you expect the worst, you'll be less dissapointed when it actually happens.

Basically I try not to get my hopes up for anything.


Edit: Goddamnit, I didn't read the other posts. Septimus said almost exactly what I said. -_-

[AoE]

It's a toss up for me. I don't tend to dwell on the bad stuff that happens to me but you can usually tell when I'm having a bad day. I used to be very negative (heavily influence by my mom since she always worries about the worst cast scenario) but after I grew up a bit, as long as I take proper precautions, dont go into things with big expectations, bad news doesn't hit me that hard so I tend not to dwell on it.

A few weeks ago my car stalled on the highway with a good friend of mine but luckily I was right on the exit ramp of where I needed to go so I got help easily. I knew there was a possibility that my car wouldn't make the trip (1 hour away and my car isn't in the best of shape) but she had an altercation and her luggage was sent to the wrong airport. They were gonna send it back to the place she departed meaning she wouldn't have any money or clothes for who knows how long. Anyway to make a long story short, she kept apologizing but first thing I told her was just happy we were able to get her luggage and didn't get stranded somewhere farther resulting in a ridiculous towing bill. ;p

[Skyylya]

where's the 'bad news in a good way' option?

i'm a negative person, but i view it very positively