Guilt not found.

[Gunitsoldier]

So I've been together with this girl for four months now and it's like the best relationship I've ever had already but when we were dating for like a month, I cheated on her by kissing another girl. No I wasn't drunk, no drugs either, no I didn't have a fight with my GF, nothing. I just felt like kissing her.

Anyways, the kiss meant nothing.I mean, I don't have any feelings for her, I love my GF.

Month later, I do it again at a friends birthday. Still didn't mean nothing, was just bored and wanted to kiss.

Now here's my problem, I don't even feel guilty for doing it. Is it because it meant nothing to me? I mean, I am guilty but not enough tbh, I realise know I won't do it again but still, shouldn't I be feeling like a complete asshole for doing it?

[Seraph]

So I've been together with this girl for four months now and it's like the best relationship I've ever had already but when we were dating for like a month, I cheated on her by kissing another girl. No I wasn't drunk, no drugs either, no I didn't have a fight with my GF, nothing. I just felt like kissing her.

Anyways, the kiss meant nothing.I mean, I don't have any feelings for her, I love my GF.

Month later, I do it again at a friends birthday. Still didn't mean nothing, was just bored and wanted to kiss.

Now here's my problem, I don't even feel guilty for doing it. Is it because it meant nothing to me? I mean, I am guilty but not enough tbh, I realise know I won't do it again but still, shouldn't I be feeling like a complete asshole for doing it?

Apparently, no you don't.

[Gunitsoldier]

I do, I really do, but it's like I have no guilt emotion or something.

[Shuemue]

You're a cheating whore and should keylog your girlfriend and then post logs and nudes of her brutal humiliation.

[Diamicles]

If you want to kiss girls whenever you feel like, don't expect to have a steady girlfriend.

[Kajii]

shit happens. party hard. is there any chance of either of the girls you kissed telling your gf? maybe you feel guilt free because you know there's no way your gf can ever find out. that's what happened with me... had a good thing going with a chick at work. didn't feel the least bit guilty.

[Tricen]

Be less 15, and be more aware.

[Correction]

Fuck these 'help me with my girlfriend' threads. This ain't fucking Livejournal.

[Skjie]

You're a cheating whore and should keylog your girlfriend and then post logs and nudes of her brutal humiliation.

wrong thread

[Xajii]

poor impulse control
grow up

[Gunitsoldier]

Tbh, I'm 18 so it's not like I have decades of experience but I know this is wrong yet I still did it.

And no she'll never find out but still, I should feel worse.

[Shuemue]

wrong thread

whoosh

[Absolutely Virtue]

You know who should feel worse? Your girlfriend.

[Seraph]

Tbh, I'm 18 so it's not like I have decades of experience but I know this is wrong yet I still did it.

And no she'll never find out but still, I should feel worse.

Your lack of regret emphasizes just how little you really care about your currently girlfriend. You might enjoy being with her, but based on your little LJ story, you definitely don't love her. I'd go into that 'you don't know what love is before 20' crap, but it's been done to death here on BG lately. I'll just submit this as the newest example.

[Tricen]

Tbh, I'm 18 so it's not like I have decades of experience but I know this is wrong yet I still did it.

And no she'll never find out but still, I should feel worse.

Need I remind you of Milks? I wouldn't say she'll never find out. Elphaba might nerd rage and email her.

[Kajii]

meh, you're 18... clearly you still want to see what's out there. you shouldn't feel bad.

[Mistress Stowastiq]

Guilt is as valuable as wondering if you should feel guilt. Honesty is more important in my opinion. If you think it is significant to her, as in it would hurt her feelings or she would consider it a betrayal that you did this, then telling her is the issue, not whether or not you did something wrong in general. Also look into how it would make you feel if she did the same thing.

Mutual freedoms between partners bring miraculous light to the value of deeds and their price paid in guilt versus dishonesty.

[Skjie]

whoosh

Not really.

[Azkarin2]

You're 18. You aren't in a relationship yet (sorry but nobody has a relationship in HS... at least nothing serious at all). When you are going to dates in your parents car, paying with your parents money, or having to hook up in rooms you hope your parents don't barge into then you aren't in any kind of serious relationship. Your subconscious realizes this thus the no guilt. Just move on and continue to have fun.

[Gunitsoldier]

Guilt is as valuable as wondering if you should feel guilt. Honesty is more important in my opinion. If you think it is significant to her, as in it would hurt her feelings or she would consider it a betrayal that you did this, then telling her is the issue, not whether or not you did something wrong in general. Also look into how it would make you feel if she did the same thing.

Mutual freedoms between partners bring miraculous light to the value of deeds and their price paid in guilt versus dishonesty.

Thing is, I realise I'm a total asshole for doing it, I do. And if she would ever do it to me I'd be pissed as hell but I don't get why I'm not as guilty as I should be. I should be getting eaten up from the inside for doing this to her but I'm not yet I do "love" (you don't believe so i'll quote it) her.