What would u do?

[Jeveh]

So my girls's phone died......she left it in our apartment. So I come home and I can't resist looking through it. She was planning on going out with a group of girls/guys to a strip club tonight. Im gonna be working, not there. So the one kid (who I thought was friends with me as well) had text her : "Im only gonna go if you get naked". Turns out no one is going so it doesnt really matter but....

Now this shit really pisses me off, but should it? Should I even bother saying anything? I know she wouldnt do something like that....or would she? She hasnt been very attentive of me imo lately, but she is crazy with work and school like I am. How did she respond or did she respond I am not sure, there was nothing in the phone.

Yea yea I may have violeted her privacy but with how she has been acting lately I had to know. Im just looking for other interpretations.

Edit: I could just be being totally paranoid because I havent recieved (attentionlol) Im told by my girlfriends there isnt shit to worry about but we live in a cruel fucked up world.

[Norelco]

I wouldn't worry about it. If you're worried just sit down with her and ask her how she feels about the relationship. Don't even bring that shit up.

[Po]

I wouldn't say anything unless it goes further or you can see that she is lying to you. Don't just come out and say something out of nowhere because that won't get you anywhere.
It would ruin all the trust she had for you and show her that you don't trust her either (whether you do or not).
With that said, know that you have it in your back pocket, so if something did happen or you had reason enough to suspect something you can pull it.
But for now I would just hang tight.

[MikedeeFenrir]

I'd just be honest and ask her what's up, but don't mention you going through the cell phone.

[Aerin]

Try not to worry too much about that text, because that could just be a guy being, well a guy. I know I've said that to some of my friends that are girls when I've had a gf and she had a bf. It was just a joke between good friends nothing more, wasn't serious. Well maybe 1/2 serious, but certainly nothing i gave a second thought about because it wasn't a serious thing.

Definitely don't mention the phone, or if you do, go prepared.

[Jefe]

Hmmm, you messed up because you were checking out her pm. Keep it to yourself, and if you notice some sort of weird behaviour, just tell [him] that you find it disrespectfull, yada, yada, yada.

I assume there's trust between both parties, so yeah....

[Exoduso]

Sit her down and talk, but don't bring up the fact you went through her cell phone.

[mistmonster]

Being a female, if I got a dollar for everytime I got texted/told something like this, I'd be rich

[Andarvi]

She finds out you were looking through her phone, relationship over.

[Tyr]

Sit her down and talk, but don't bring up the fact you went through her cell phone.

Yeah. Don't let that get to you, but it wouldn't hurt to talk to her about your relationship, obviously don't bring it up. You'll most likely find out that she's just been busy.

[MikedeeFenrir]

She finds out you were looking through her phone, relationship over.

If she's a crazy bitch (women) you can bet you'll lose your balls too, if you tell her.

It sounds like you have a trust issue btw.

Also, this guy, is he a friend of your or hers? If it's your friend I'd go to his face and ask him about it, if it's hers, he's probably some guy friend who has a crush on her and drops hard fucking hints in on her all the time when your not around.

I'm just saying from personal experience. I have a restraining order on my ex, even though I never looked through her cell phone...;3

[Septimus]

If you went as far as to look through her phone messages, then somewhere deep in your subconscious mind you consider the relationship to be already over. People only spy when they: are naturally jealous and possessive and shouldn't be allowed near other people, have major trust issues and shouldn't inflict their dysfunction onto other people, are nosey (or "nebby" as we say in these parts) old women, or they believe on a primal level that things are through.

Working off of the presumption that you are neither possessive, have major trust issues, nor you are an old woman; you want to break things off and are looking for a reason to do so. I'm not trying to sound harsh, but when things are done, they are done.

[Quicklet]

If you went as far as to look through her phone messages, then somewhere deep in your subconscious mind you consider the relationship to be already over. People only spy when they: are naturally jealous and possessive and shouldn't be allowed near other people, have major trust issues and shouldn't inflict their dysfunction onto other people, are nosey (or "nebby" as we say in these parts) old women, or they believe on a primal level that things are through.

Working off of the presumption that you are neither possessive, have major trust issues, nor you are an old woman; you want to break things off and are looking for a reason to do so. I'm not trying to sound harsh, but when things are done, they are done.

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I think most people are naturally curious about things like diaries, phone msgs, etc. if they're just left lying around. If there's a valid reason to suspect anything, then you should find out more in a way that won't make you come off as jealous or suspicious. You're probably worrying about nothing though. Guys who have a problem letting their girlfriend talk to other guys have deeper trust issues than the typical curiosity or momentary concern though which is pretty unhealthy for a relationship because it means at some point they will probably accuse them of things without any good reason, so if this is all you have and she didn't respond to the message, you're probably just overthinking the situation and don't have anything to worry about. If she didn't respond she probably was just ignoring it.

[MF Perm]

Pretty much every guy in America wants to fuck a girl that he's friends with.

True story.


That said, guys do use that type of humor on girls they're just friends with; I'm engaged and I do it, but it doesn't go further than that because of maturity on both sides. Sometimes it goes overboard but, rarely.

edit: not overboard with me, just in general. I'm not a nappy-headed ho'.

[Priran]

1. Punch kid in head.
2. Wait for reaction from girlfriend.
3. ???
4. Just as planned.

[SephYuyX]

Pretty much every guy in America wants to fuck a girl that he's friends with.

True story.

Thats why guys cant be friends with a girl (unless theyre friends with benfits) because the only reason a guy would consider being just a friend with a girl, is the eventual hope of pounding her in the ass.

[Devek]

Stick it in her pooper.

[Semitry]

Pretty much every guy in America wants to fuck a girl that he's friends with.

True story.

Thats why guys cant be friends with a girl (unless theyre friends with benfits) because the only reason a guy would consider being just a friend with a girl, is the eventual hope of pounding her in the ass.

Or they find her unattractive.

[MikedeeFenrir]

Pretty much every guy in America wants to fuck a girl that he's friends with.

True story.

Thats why guys cant be friends with a girl (unless theyre friends with benfits) because the only reason a guy would consider being just a friend with a girl, is the eventual hope of pounding her in the ass.

I wouldn't fuck my friend Christine she's a ginger...

[Devek]

Is Christine fat?