Any mothers around? (lol)

[Jotaru]

So!

My older sister gave birth to her first child, a beautiful little boy, on Wednesday (Welcome to the world, Cayden!) but as he was a bit premature (about three weeks) he is still in the hospital and probably will be for the next few days; he's got slightly premature lungs still, and although he's stable and doing well, they have to keep him there a few more days to make sure all is well and give him the best start possible. She's been at the hospital since the birth as well but is most likely getting discharged later tonight or tomorrow sometime.

I went up to visit her as soon as I found out, as did the father's family and friends, and generally she's had a lot of support (flowers, gifts, cards, balloons, you name it) but she still seems to be kinda down in the dumps- of course, she just squeezed a watermelon out of a vending machine, and she probably just isn't feeling well, but with him not being in tiptop shape and (with her personality) being stuck in the hospital I'm sure is just making her feel bleh, support or not.

Sooo.. I love my sister to death, and just wondering what I could maybe do / bring her / do for her that might really cheer her up, make her feel a bit better, etc. I don't really want to get something she already has (more balloons, yay) so I'm kinda at a loss as far as that goes, but just something that might brighten up her day. If there's any moms around, just wondering what little things really made you shine, what really screams 'thoughtfulness', I figure you'd be the best to ask. Any other tips would be great too I brought her and her husband out to a nice dinner the night before (baby probably wanted to get out ASAP so I could take him out too!) so that was good timing, but I want to make sure she doesn't slip into postpartum depression or anything of the sorts.

So I come to you, brainstorming BG minds! Hit me with your tips

[Woozie]

Hmm, my sister seemed really happy all four times she gave birth. I don't remember her being depressed at all.

My mom said she was really depressed when I was born, but that was because they thought I was going to die (I was two months premature with underdeveloped heart and lungs). Maybe she'll feel better once the baby is allowed to come home.

[wintersquall]

bring her someone else's baby, and make sure it throws up on her and pees down her hospital gown.

you're just preparing her for the next 2-3 years of her life.

[Silviya]

Cheeseburger and a chocolate shake, or similar sort of comfort food you can't find in the hospital cafeteria.

[Tyche]

Post partum depression is somewhat a common occurence, she may be experiencing that.

[Draggy]

Well if she gave birth a couple days ago it may just be the hormones, i remember it hitting me a few days after giving birth. only lasted a day or two, but i remember crying my eyes out for an hour coz i knocked over a glass of water or something rediculous like that

That and premature babies are more stressful i think. Even if the baby is ok its not nice when theyre stuck in an incubator hooked up to wires and such. Never happened to me but last July my brothers girlfriend ended up having emergancy C Section and my nephew was born 8 weeks early


Buuuut to answer your actual question on what to get/do for her, i dont really know

[Alleya]

Post partum depression is somewhat a common occurence, she may be experiencing that.

Pretty much. It'll go away in a few weeks. If not, taking her to a psychologist is the best thing you can do for her.

[Seraph]

Chocolate.

If chocolate doesn't make her feel better, it's more serious of a problem then you can handle. Run.

[Jotaru]

It doesnt seem to be anything hugely serious, she's just kinda bummed out I think due to the collection of things. I don't think its clinical depression as its only been two days, not something a little somethin' can't fix.

That being said, her hubby called and explained that a Wendies frosty would be a godsend for her- going to get that, kek. Maybe I'll get the cheeseburger too!

[Acturus]

Post partum depression is somewhat a common occurence, she may be experiencing that.

If she's still in the hospital, the nursing staff is trained to watch for these things. Hopefully, if she's been discharged, she has all the necessary materials and resources to get counseling if necessary.

My wife and I were also blitzed with post partum stuff in the weeks leading up to her delivery by her OBGYN.

It sounds like you're pretty close with your sister, give her a call every few days, ask her how it's going, when can she get to take Cayden home, etc. etc. Or maybe talk to the father if he's in the picture.

If she sounds excessively sad, or moody, and you feel you can approach her, ask her if she's feeling okay, etc. etc.

Just make sure she's keeping up a dialogue with SOMEONE, a husband, you, her doctor, someone that can be responsible and pay attention to this sort of thing.

She shouldn't have another doctor's appointment with her OBGYN until the follow up 6 weeks from now, so keep that in mind too.

EDIT! And CONGRATULATIONS to you and yours for the new addition! So exciting!

[archibaldcrane]

She's depressed because she realized she named her baby Cayden, subjecting him to a lifetime of beatings at the hands of everyone who doesn't have a terrible name.

I'd be depressed too.

[Avanarius]

She's depressed because she realized she named her baby Cayden, subjecting him to a lifetime of beatings at the hands of everyone who doesn't have a terrible name.

I'd be depressed too.

Could have been Hitler, or Bear.

[Shuemue]

Yeah, she probably just has what they refer to over here as 'the blues' which will go away very soon. Very, very different from post natal depression.

[Shuemue]

Also is she breastfeeding? That's something you should encourage, it'll help her bond with the baby.

[Draggy]

yeah baby blues usually sets in 2-3 days after

[Neosutra]

Bring her some birth control.

[Shuemue]

I heard Neosutra's wife had twins and he got sent to jail for baby duping.

[Neosutra]

I heard Neosutra's wife had twins and he got sent to jail for baby duping.

Just wish I knew why they came out black.

[Woozie]

My bad.

[Neosutra]

You're not black woozie. Just really tan.