BG Couples: How often do you have sex?

[Palpatine]

I want more, my wife wants less. Out of curiosity, how often do you couples (married or not) get laid? I'm lucky to get lucky once a week. I'd like to compare that to the general populous and pity myself.

[Mizango]

Over 9000








3-4 times a week. My wife is fixed, so no mas sangre.

[Kuya]

One to two times a week. We don't live together yet and we're both very busy, otherwise we'd have sex more often.

[Sparky]

Thursday and Sunday Morning. Welcome to marriage!

[Vandalhart]

We take 1 week off in a month, but otherwise it's every 2-3 days. It really depends on our moods.

She's actively said she wants it less, or does she just make it seem like such a chore when you guys do finally get a chance to get some?

[Bikpik]

What ages are you looking at, cause I'm 35 and she's 31 and she wants it more than me. Couple times a week is enough for me

[Fievel]

Legit question, not meant to be condescending in any way. Are you sure you're satisfying your wife when you do have sex? A lot of times in relationships people get lazy, or selfish when it comes to sex. If she's not getting off when you do have sex then it's probably not fun for her, just frustrating. Communication and a little anatomy knowledge goes a long way.

That or she's cheating on you.

[zoobernut]

My wife and I had sex almost every day before we got married then it dropped to a couple times a week when we got married now that we have a 1 year old it is once every couple weeks if we are lucky enough to get some alone time. We talk about it from time to time and have to adjust to each others needs. Find a happy medium somewhere in between, maybe not quite as much as you want but slightly more than she wants. Or you can work on upping your game, just because you are married doesn't guarantee sex. If you want sex give your wife a massage or take her out to a nice dinner do what you can to make her want it.

[Palpatine]

She orgasms every time, and definitely doesn't cheat. I am very, very lazy when it comes to getting her in the mood, so in that regard I am definitely at fault. She just doesn't like having sex. Over 9000 sounds wonderful!

[tyven]

What ages are you looking at, cause I'm 35 and she's 31 and she wants it more than me. Couple times a week is enough for me

This is similar to me lol. Women hit their prime at 30 and I'm all like jfc leave me alone

[Fievel]

She orgasms every time, and definitely doesn't cheat. I am very, very lazy when it comes to getting her in the mood, so in that regard I am definitely at fault. She just doesn't like having sex. Over 9000 sounds wonderful!

Meh then yeah go with what Zoobernut said, communicate and compromise. Step your game up a bit and try to get her in the mood.

[zoobernut]

She orgasms every time, and definitely doesn't cheat. I am very, very lazy when it comes to getting her in the mood, so in that regard I am definitely at fault. She just doesn't like having sex. Over 9000 sounds wonderful!

Well fixing this would be the first thing you should do. If that doesn't fix the problem then sit down with her and find out why it didn't work. You have to work for it. Guys can get into the mood relatively easy, for women it may not always be that easy.

[Aristio]

I was in the same rut with my wife. Went from 5 times a day, to twice a week, to once a week.

Never fixed it, just getting divorced so no advice from me. But overall, I think the downturn just came from her not -wanting- me anymore, so take that as a little bit of a tip.

[Boyiee]

Me and my girlfriend of ~4-5 years have sex pretty much every time we're together. Be it one time a week or 5. She typically wants it more than me. We don't live together yet.

[Fievel]

To answer the actual question in the OP

I'm in a new relationship (1 month) and having sex 3+ times a day.

Life is good.

[Palpatine]

Super jealous of three times a day. We've been together for 3 years and I'd still love that. I'm 28 and she's 24. Not sure how that fits in the grand scheme of wanting sex.

[Elesirdur]

On a 'regular' week, probably 4-5 times. When one or both of us gets more stressed out (grad school for me, work for her) then it often drops down to around once or twice; more likely on the weekend than on weekdays. We've been together for almost 4 years, and living together for the last 2.5.

To OP, what matters is finding a balance which works for your lives and your emotions. A strong line of communication between you and your partner is key. A question I would pose to you is does your SO know that you are unhappy/displeased with the frequency of sex in your relationship? If not, then try to open up some communication at a time when you're both feeling good and have a talk about what is currently happening, and what you would like to happen.

As I mentioned, in my relationship stressful times are real sex-killers. I just lose my sex drive, as does she, but it's more about being emotionally available. I really find that when I'm stressed out I just don't have the emotional energy to 'connect' with my lady in the way I would like. If your wife doesn't seem that interested, it may just be that she does not feel as emotionally engaged as she might like. Don't take the blame onto yourself alone, this is a two-way street. But ask yourself if you do feel emotionally engaged with your wife, at a level that's more than just physical attraction or desire for sex? This might be a good place to start a conversation with her as it probably gets to the root of the issue surrounding frequency of sex.

I hope you two are able to start a productive and insightful dialogue about this. When both partners are respectful and validating of each others feelings, you can create a safe space for discussions about what can be heated topics. Hopefully this leads to the both of you feeling improved about your relationship, and to some more fun in the bed [or the kitchen table, or shower, or sofa... ]

[Melena]

Not nearly enough for the wife and I. We just had a nasty two month stretch where one of us was always sick, that time of the month, or i'm at clinical exhaustion. Before that was 2+ times a week minimum.

[Mizango]

Inb4 HAcoreRD is nailing your girl and is in love with her.

[Charismatic]

This is similar to me lol. Women hit their prime at 30 and I'm all like jfc leave me alone

I dunno about that, as far as I am aware... I think they have a resurgence of sex hormones so it seems like a prime since they are far hornier than the years just before but I think women's actual sex prime (when they want it the most) is supposedly in the late teens/early 20s.
At least that's what I remember reading. I could be wrong LOL.