what the fuck is this? help

[Knyghtmayre]

Prefacing this with a tl;dr

me:20, her:24, 7 months together, we live 5000 miles apart, flew to be with her, didn't make it past customs, we're both depressed that it didn't work, she won't say she loves me anymore, i get pissed off and explode and fight with her, she breaks her promise of "one argument is not going to end us" and ignores the fuck out of me. What do I do?



Long version
I'm 20, she's 24, and I'm fucking confused

We've been together for like 7 months, she lives in england, i live in louisiana. shit's hard, but it was worth it to me. I paid a little over $1k ish for my passport and ticket to go to stay with her for a couple months about a month ago. When I got to customs at the airport, the bitch IO said i didn't have enough cash for my entire stay (even though i'd have to pay no living expenses) and sent me back home. 40 hours of flying in 2 days, oh joy.

Anyway, now that the background is done, my problem is:

I'm a very affectionate person, and i don't easily let people get close to me, for good reason. but once she gained my trust, she was in and i am really attached to her. Every now and then (not just on period weeks) she's extremely bitchy at me, and she hadn't been before. She even refused to reply to me after I told her that i loved her one night recently. Am I wrong to be hurt by that? The day after that, I told her again, and she said "I know." At this point i am highly annoyed and beginning to wonder if she (still?) feels the same way about me as I do about her.

I had a talk about it with her, but it was mostly just her getting pissed off at me for being annoyed that she wouldn't say she loved me. Today I said it, again, and she said something along the lines of "well there's only one accepted response, isn't there?" All I wanted was a little reciprocation. Life's been pretty shitty since I got sent back from trying to be with her (she said she's miserable that I am not there when I am supposed to be and we both planned on it), and I just wanted to know that she still cares about me and her feelings aren't waivering.

After she replied with the snarky comment I got really upset and blew up on her and told her to fuck off if she's miserable with me. I really just wanted to vent my feelings and she said that one argument is not the end of our relationship. The reason she said this is because previously in every argument, i would just roll over and let her win because i did not want to risk losing her, because she makes me happy. Now she won't speak to me at all.

so i come to spam. the one place i'll probably not get any advice from, but i really don't know where else to ask people about their opinions of this situation. did i fuck up? is she at fault? is this the end of our relationship? what the fuck do i do now? I'm very terrible at people skills, and i don't know what to do. Ridicule me, tell me to gtfo, but please help.

[Qalbert]

Just forget about it shes obviously a bitch

[Ksandra]

did the bitchyness start before or after you tried to visit her?

[Charismatic]

Only thing you should regret is not fucking her in the ass before everything was said and done.

[Knyghtmayre]

it's not necessarily a maintained state of bitchiness, but rather intermittent. but the first time it happened was a few months before i tried to visit.

[Darkslitter]

hate to break it to you, but kiarax is a dude

[Darkslitter]

[Ksandra]

it's not necessarily a maintained state of bitchiness, but rather intermittent. but the first time it happened was a few months before i tried to visit.

did you already have the tickets or at least given her the strong impression that you were going to visit by that time?

[Charismatic]

fuck you said england not europe

Spoiler: show

Kiarax is in England right now, it still could have worked

[Darkslitter]

oh okay, i'm going to edit my post and no one will know it ever happened

[Krye]

You're gay

[Mertron]

kny you have aim?

[Mertron]

actually nvm i'm probably the wrong person to talk to about this

[quannum]

The reason she said this is because previously in every argument, i would just roll over and let her win because i did not want to risk losing her, because she makes me happy. Now she won't speak to me at all.

stop doing this. you have the dick, you make the rules. don't contact her. if she contacts you, you're busy. the end.

[Linliel]

OK one thing: Long distance relationships SUCK. Esp. long distance relationships after only 7 months. It's going to be very very very very difficult even if it does work. I'm in one now and the only reason it's actually working is because my bf and I have been together TWELVE YEARS. And it's only JUST hanging on, and only because we're basically life partners or soulmates or whatever you want to call it. You sort of get a feel for that after that long. Not seven months though.

So I honestly don't give you much hope, sorry. I'd recommend letting it go and finding someone closer to where you are. And next time, read up on visa rules before you try to go somewhere

[Linliel]

PS if you want to pm me and chat i'd be happy to but pretty much what i said there is what i'll say

[Linliel]

AND BEFORE YOU GET ANY IDEAS I WONT CYBER YOU

[Krye]

Shut the fuck up Linliel he's cheating on you right now and if he isn't it's because he's a hideous beast which I guess makes sense if he's with you but it doesn't even matter because even if he is faithful you're still going to take my dick

[Krye]

And what's up with all these gay ass "Do you have AIM" and "PM me" responses not gonna happen you talk in this thread so everybody can see how stupid you are and tell you straight to your face that you're a dumb bitch faggot

[Kyo]

Lin is pretty much spot on with this one, Ive tried the long distance thing, its not for me thats for sure, and we only lived a few hours apart.