Men: On infidelity, adultery and marriage

[Antithesis]

This question is just directed at men because it's something that was brought up the other day with people at work. Why is it that men decide to get married? As far as I am concerned, men are just too horny / unsatisfiable to be with only one one. They end up cheating with someone else on the side and keep it on the down-low. I am sure women do this as well but probably not to the same extreme as men.

My question is why? Why bother getting married with someone if 5 - 10 years down the road you are going to end up cheating on them with someone else? Why are we so insatiable that we cannot stay with one woman?

PS: I am probably generalizing a bit when I say all men. Most men**

[Izzy]

Women are perfect and never cheat.

[Falcon]

This is silly.

You're silly.

[Zilong]

Marriage is what usually happened when you realize she's the best you could probably get

Cheating is what usually happened when you realize you're wrong

[aduidarnenye]

I'm not a man but I read recently that marriages are happier today than they were in the 1950s and 1960s. The divorce rates are inflated because they only count the number of divorces and the number of marriages in any given year, failing to recognise that the total number of marriages per year has dropped. I also recall the happier marriages having something to do with the women being more equal partners, able to earn money to contribute to the household and not trapped by feminine ideals anymore. It's really interesting, because the generation of men hitting their mid to late 30s now are the first generation to live with feminism their entire lives.

And, some men grow out of being super horny all the time. Actually, let me rephrase that. Some men grow out of being super horny for a lot of different women all the time.

[Takedown3]

ITT: people who got cheated or did the cheating

also this:

http://www.dvo.com/newsletter/monthl...s/sandwich.jpg

get to it

[Souj]

As far as statistics are concerned, men who are married live longer.
As far as why they actually get married; fuck if I know. I know I don't want to.

[Antithesis]

Women are perfect and never cheat.

Re-read. This is mostly aimed at guys.

[Meresgi]

Why don't most women like the idea of 3 ways?



That should be your question.

[Pirian]

I would break up with my girl before I would cheat on her, but I guess that's just me?

My sister cheated on her faithful husband multiple times and he was willing to forgive her, but she wanted the divorce. So yeah, clearly not all men

[tyven]

god that fucking sucks for your sisters husband. how you gonna get cheated, forgive her, then she still divorces you

[Julian]

Emotional connection?

[Antithesis]

Emotional connection?

Sometimes sex clouds your judgment :\

[Pirian]

Emotional connection?

This is pretty much why I'm in a relationship. Sure, not having to find a new fuck buddy every few months is nice, but sex is sex, lol. I've never found it to be some overwhelming urge that I wasn't able to control. Then again, I've never had problems with addiction, and I do have pretty good self-control

[Zanz L. Barre The 3rd]

I don't have any "science" or research to support the following claim, but from life experiences I feel that there is some validity in it.

It is human nature to fuck what "we" feel we are attracted to, and it is unnatural to bonded for life with one mate under most circumstances. There is one exception to this, and that is whether or not you perceive your wife as a friend, or as a mate. If your relationship is based off of mating (primarily the case when it comes to attraction), the bond is weak and not intended for an extended period of time. On the other hand, if there is a true bond of friendship on both ends of the spectrum (ie there is a mutual feeling of friendship in both parties), it is unlikely for the marriage to fall on the wayside, primarily because man is less likely to betray those they receive social (and to an extent sexual) reciprocation from.

[Correction]

oh god where's titanss lol

[MF Perm tha Fineass]

oh god where's titanss lol

lol

[Neosutra]

This question is just directed at men because it's something that was brought up the other day with people at work. Why is it that men decide to get married? As far as I am concerned, men are just too horny / unsatisfiable to be with only one one. They end up cheating with someone else on the side and keep it on the down-low. I am sure women do this as well but probably not to the same extreme as men.

My question is why? Why bother getting married with someone if 5 - 10 years down the road you are going to end up cheating on them with someone else? Why are we so insatiable that we cannot stay with one woman?

PS: I am probably generalizing a bit when I say all men. Most men**

Because we have a conflicting social idealogy (partnership, emotional/financial support) with our genetic desires.

We're like a machine with 2 operating systems going at once.

We get married because we think that will make us happy and society tells us too. We fuck everything in sight because we are hard wired to do just that.

[Antithesis]

Because we have a conflicting social idealogy (partnership, emotional/financial support) with our genetic desires.

We're like a machine with 2 operating systems going at once.

We get married because we think that will make us happy and society tells us too. We fuck everything in sight because we are hard wired to do just that.

Not saying I don't WANT a emotional relationship also. I just loose my mind when someone hot walks past me and completely forget anything prior.

[Arelian]

This question is just directed at women because it's something that was brought up the other day with people at work. Why is it that women decide to get married? As far as I am concerned, women are just too unstable / unsatisfiable to be with anyone. They end up bitching all day about the men they're with and never actually address the problem. I am sure men do this as well but probably not to the same extreme as women.

My question is why? Why bother getting married with someone if 5 - 10 years down the road you are going to end up bitching about someone every day? Why are we so unstable that we cannot stay with one man?

PS: I am probably generalizing a bit when I say all women. Most women**


Look, I can do it too!

EDIT: Also, it sounds like you need to grow up a little bit and exercise some self-control if you "lose your mind" whenever someone attractive walks by you. Jesus christ.