Teens: 'Oral Sex Is the New Goodnight Kiss'

[0ni0n]

By CLAIRE SHIPMAN and COLE KAZDIN

May 28, 2009 —

They don't give their names, but viewers can see their faces plainly and what these teens are saying is shocking parents.
"I ended up having sex with more than one person that night and then in the morning I was trying to get morning-after pills," one of the girls said. "I was, like, 14 at the time."
It's just one of dozens of stories from teenage girls in a new documentary by Canadian filmmaker Sharlene Azam that aims to shed light on the secret, extremely sexual lives of today's teens.

After four years researching for the documentary, Azam told "Good Morning America" that oral sex is as common as kissing for teens and that casual prostitution -- being paid at parties to strip, give sexual favors or have sex -- is far more commonplace than once believed.
"If you talk to teens [about oral sex] they'll tell you it's not a big deal," Azam said. "In fact, they don't consider it sex. They don't consider a lot of things sex."
Evidence of this casual attitude may be seen in the fact that more than half of all teens 15 to 19 years old have engaged in oral sex, according to a comprehensive 2005 study by the Centers for Disease Control's National Center for Health Statistics.

'Oral Sex Is the New Goodnight Kiss'

In the documentary, "Oral Sex Is the New Goodnight Kiss," girls as young as 11 years old talk about having sex, going to sex parties and -- in some extreme situations -- crossing into prostitution by exchanging sexual favors for money, clothes or even homework and then still arriving home in time for dinner with the family.
"Five minutes and I got $100," one girl said. "If I'm going to sleep with them, anyway, because they're good-looking, might as well get paid for it, right?"
Another girl talked about being offered $20 to take off her shirt or $100 to do a striptease on a table at a party.
The girls are almost always from good homes, but their parents are completely unaware, Azam said.
"The prettiest girls from the most successful families [are the most at risk]. We're not talking about marginalized girls," she said. "[Parents] don't want to know because they really don't know what to do. I mean, you might be prepared to learn that, at age 12, your daughter has had sex, but what are you supposed to do when your daughter has traded her virginity for $1,000 or a new bag?"

Sex Favors Traded for Relationship Stability

For some of the girls, the sexual favors are not about clothes or money, but used to keep a relationship together in a chillingly objective way.
"I think there's very much trading for relationship favors, almost like 'you need to do this [to] stay in this relationship,'" one girl told "Good Morning America."
"There's a lot of social pressure," said another. "Especially because of our age, a lot of girls want to be in a relationship and they're willing to do anything."
The girls laughingly admitted they never talk to their parents about their sexual activity.
"I mean, we're not looking for our future husbands," one girl said. "We're just looking for, maybe like ... at our age, especially, I think all of us, both sexes, we have a lot of urges, I guess, that need to be taken care of. So if we resort to a casual thing, no strings attached, it's perfectly fine."
Azam said she thinks the "no strings attached" romances could be a defense mechanism against a greater disappointment.
"A lot of girls are disappointed in love," she said. "And I think they believe they can hook up the way guys do and not care.
"But unfortunately, they do care."
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[Vandalhart]

10 YEARS TOO LATE!

Actually my wife insists on a hug and kiss before going to sleep.. I'll have to pass this along.

[Howard Roark]

11?! man I went to the wrong parties

[Dimmauk]

That 2005 Study says ages 15-44.

[0ni0n]

That 2005 Study says ages 15-44.

I am glad I am still qualified. Where's all the girls at! I have got some stimulus package that I can spare.

[Feielle]

2 things:

1) Documentaries are all about skewing an opinion by showing overly-biased extremist angles. I'm sure you could make just as convincing a film thats says 85% of teens are now homosexual just by picking the right people to interview.

2) The accessibility of media has made it so that we're now more aware of things like this, but for some reason people think that just because they didn't hear about it means it wasn't happening. Were chicks stripping and screwing for money in 1940? You bet your ass they were, but now that we have the internet, its far more public.

Just because we're seeing things we haven't been shown before, that doesn't make it new.

[arshesney]

That didn't just happen when I was that age

[Charismatic]

That didn't just happen when I was that age

Oh it did, just not to people with anime avatars.

[Vandalhart]

I wish I could go back and beat the crap out of myself.. at least not the way I used to beat myself

Tell myself to get off my high christian horse already and have some fuckin fun while you can. Get it out of your system while your young!

[Day]

I was frenching girls in the 4th grade, got my first HJ at 11 and first BJ at 12, this seems about right, just depends on who your group of friends were.

[Devolver]

a/s/l?

[Cjskater]

I think where you lived/live has a lot to do with it. Living in a rural and highly religious area this didn't happen with the "upper class pretty girls" at that age. If it did everyone knew about it and she was labeled a slut, at which point if you even talked to her you were somehow diseased. After 4 months you would be lucky to grab a boob (if they even had any) with most of them without some sort of retaliation... kissing was the only thing acceptable pretty much. 5 minutes with the other side of the spectrum was all it took though.

It changed a lot in high school.

[Dimmauk]

I blame rap music.

[Gunitsoldier]

Darwinism

[Tomiko]

Oh it did, just not to people with anime avatars.

lol

[0ni0n]

I want my goodnight kisses, goddamnit

[Alleya]

2 things:

1) Documentaries are all about skewing an opinion by showing overly-biased extremist angles. I'm sure you could make just as convincing a film thats says 85% of teens are now homosexual just by picking the right people to interview.

2) The accessibility of media has made it so that we're now more aware of things like this, but for some reason people think that just because they didn't hear about it means it wasn't happening. Were chicks stripping and screwing for money in 1940? You bet your ass they were, but now that we have the internet, its far more public.

Just because we're seeing things we haven't been shown before, that doesn't make it new.

Get out of here with your "reason" and "logic". We don't need your "facts" or your fancy-shmancy big-city "causality".

[Diamicles]

Where's all the girls at! I have got some stimulus package that I can spare.

I found this hilarious

[Diamicles]

oh and in before reverse darwinism

[Plow]

I think where you lived/live has a lot to do with it. Living in a rural and highly religious area this didn't happen with the "upper class pretty girls" at that age. If it did everyone knew about it and she was labeled a slut, at which point if you even talked to her you were somehow diseased. After 4 months you would be lucky to grab a boob (if they even had any) with most of them without some sort of retaliation... kissing was the only thing acceptable pretty much. 5 minutes with the other side of the spectrum was all it took though.

It changed a lot in high school.

You knew the wrong religious girls imo.