Why do parents censor sex but not violence

[Ikith]

I can't remember if there was a thread on this a while back but I need this explained.

Why do parents allow kids to watch violent movies that have huge amounts of gore but when it comes to anything with any sexual content in it parents flip out.

I never really understood this. So please enlighten me.

[Neosutra]

Christianity.

Sex dirty. Smiting enemies good.

[thetruepandagod]

nakedness is evil and violence is entertaining.

[LogainDiabolos]

Simple answer: Religion dominated society.

[Correction]

Not Christianity, plenty of Europeans are Christians and their attitudes are exactly reversed, they heavily censor violence in their mass media but are 'meh' towards sexual themes. The anti-sex/yay violence attitude is a very American phenomenon.

[Ikith]

But isn't sex natural and chopping peoples heads off/blowing things brains out... Not so natural?

So we choose murder over something beautiful like reproduction.

[kuronosan]

Sex-taboos are mostly a Catholic/American/Protestant thing.

[Mizango]

Darwinism?


No seriously, Neo beat me to it. We are taught early on that sex is filthy, foul and is an abomination..... except when youre a man or woman and are married in a house of God, only then it is no longer abominable.

I mean people go to church every Sunday and pay lucrative amounts of money, to beg and to apologize for being human. That about par for the course?

[Ikith]

When/If I have kids I would rather them see sex than some dude getting his head cut off... Or at least see sex first then the dude cutting the chics head off.

[ZarakiKujata]

Not Christianity, plenty of Europeans are Christians and their attitudes are exactly reversed, they heavily censor violence in their mass media but are 'meh' towards sexual themes. The anti-sex/yay violence attitude is a very American phenomenon.

Europe is 'Christian' but the rise of socialism and other "-isms" between the start of the Industrial Revolution and the end of WWII caused the Church to become less and less important for Europeans and by consequence they lost their Victorian taboos about sex and sexuality that Amurika still has.

In reality both should be censored to an extent since little kids really do not have the grasp to truly understand either concept, but yeah sex should be less stigmatized and violence more so. Beyond the Christianity though, we are also an incredibly warlike and violent society and the abundance of relatively uncensored violence in the media is a cause and result of this.

[Yuri-G]

Victorian morality - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

we're still recovering from that shit, more than 100 years later. at least women can show their ankles now without being called sluts.

also, the puritans have a lot to do with it if I remember my AP American History correctly. which I probably don't since I blocked that horror out of my mind.

[Lordwafik]

I can't remember if there was a thread on this a while back but I need this explained.

Why do parents allow kids to watch violent movies that have huge amounts of gore but when it comes to anything with any sexual content in it parents flip out.

I never really understood this. So please enlighten me.

They don't want their kids asking questions.

It's easy to see the end result of violence - harming/hurting someone. The child might not understand why the people are doing it but they do understand the emotions and reactions of the people causing/recieving violence.

Now in sex, the child doesn't understand what's going on because they (hopefully) haven't had sex/been involved in it at such a young age, so when they see a girl grinding on a guy and smooching and taking off her top etc, they'll ask questions.
Why avoid the questions? Most of the time it is yes, conservative religious parents, who are taught that sex is wrong outside of marriage and they want their kids to be married before they have sex blahblahblah.

My parents would change the channel if 2 people were kissing, they weren't really that religious back then (only now in their older age they are), they just didn't want confrontation I guess!

The funny thing is when you think about it, the kids will see a snippet here and there before the sex gets censored/channel is changed, ask the parents, parents won't give answer as they're too conservative, but that in itself causes the child to find their own answers through experimenting with other kids, and the irony is the parents prevention was actually the cause

(note : that is a legitimate use of the word irony!)

[Khelek]

at least women can show their ankles now without being called sluts.

I hear not even that is true across all of the Amaracaz.

AFK, gonna go look at the topless gals by the beach for a while. (Fuck yeah Sweden)

[Brill Weave]

Sex dirty. Smiting enemies good.

Well done sir. Well done.

[Epical]

The question this thread poses is one that I've been asking people for a long time. It's a shame that this is the case with society. =(

[kuronosan]

They don't want their kids asking questions.

It's easy to see the end result of violence - harming/hurting someone. The child might not understand why the people are doing it but they do understand the emotions and reactions of the people causing/recieving violence.

Now in sex, the child doesn't understand what's going on because they (hopefully) haven't had sex/been involved in it at such a young age, so when they see a girl grinding on a guy and smooching and taking off her top etc, they'll ask questions.
Why avoid the questions? Most of the time it is yes, conservative religious parents, who are taught that sex is wrong outside of marriage and they want their kids to be married before they have sex blahblahblah.

My parents would change the channel if 2 people were kissing, they weren't really that religious back then (only now in their older age they are), they just didn't want confrontation I guess!

The funny thing is when you think about it, the kids will see a snippet here and there before the sex gets censored/channel is changed, ask the parents, parents won't give answer as they're too conservative, but that in itself causes the child to find their own answers through experimenting with other kids, and the irony is the parents prevention was actually the cause

(note : that is a legitimate use of the word irony!)

This right here is the right answer.

[Mizango]

See that's what gets me, most parents have the proverbial Ostrich with its head in the sand mentality. If I don't see it, hear it or speak of it then its totally not happening. Everyone will have kids at some point, ask yourself this, do you want your kids coming to YOU for answers about sex, love and kissing or would you wanting them to ask some nigga named Pookie for sex advice?

My wife and I keep open dialogue with our 9 year old daughter. She knows what kissing is and why people do it. She knows that babies don't come from fucking storks and magic men etc... I mean there comes a point where you are doing your children a great disservice and setting them up for failure by thinking they are dumb and by divvying out bullshit stories.

They come to you for trust and know you'll shoot straight with them. It is a fine line to walk but you have to have confidence in what you are doing and know that it will eventually come down to 2 things; Do I listen to what my parent or do I listen to my 14 year friend.

[deshende]

I always kind of assumed it had to do with separation from reality and fiction.

Most violence (if we're talking fiction and not like war footage) happens in pretty fictional setups with lots of special effects and stunt coordination. Sure some kids without much common sense or grounding might try to pull off a mortal kombat move on someone, but that's not the majority.

Sex on the other hand is much more obtainable in the real world. Kids could copy what they see on the screen without much thought of the consequences and it change their lives forever (look at all of the teen pregnancies all over the place).

Granted, kids with guns are a scary thought, but I'd think that most of the violence kids are subjected to can be separated as fiction (made up/ imaginary whatever term kids understand).

[Brill Weave]

Whenever Mizango responds with something as well thought out as his prior post I always have to remind myself he's not white. But Wafik and Miz are right in their thinking. I don't think it's that parents don't want to have the conversation with their children.

I do think it's the fact that they don't want the time and place forced upon them. Miz and his wife aren't the norm. Most parents are not that open about sex with their children because it makes them uncomfortable. Because it means their precious babies are growing up. What father wants to think of his little girl banging their high school junior boyfriend in a 1997 Honda Civic hatchback in the parking lot of a PF Chang's restaurant?

By holding off the conversation a little while longer, they feel that they are still able to keep them innocent to the naughty naughty world.

[Mizango]

lol c'mon dawg.